Do You Think Your Mom Knows and/or Knew But..............

[Suzy Parker]

......never said anything. I started dressing at about age 6 in my mothers clothes and never got caught. I was always very careful to return everything to its proper place when finished. Mom was a very neat and tidy person though. I know I could never have returned everything to its proper place and folded exactly how she would do no matter how hard I tried. I often wonder if she knew and just never said anything to me thinking I would just grow out of it. I wonder about that to this day.

Hey Mom, I Never Grew Out Of It!

[Danielle_cder]

my mom knew, never liked me using her things (which i agree with) so she was nice and got me my own things

This past halloween we hung out, my house gets bombarded by trick or treaters, my mom loves handing out candy. She went as the queen of hearts me as you all know me Im not much for handing out candy to youngsters as it feels weird. So I made sure the tv was well watched while she attended the door and handed out candy.

[Gretchen_To_Be]

Suzy, I think she definitely knew, but because I had a brother 2 years older than me I don't think she ever figured out which one of us it was! I too was careful, but now that I see how stretched out a pair of hose is, or smell the distinct difference on lingerie that my wife wore and that I did, I realize now I was a fool.

The funny part is that I believe she thinks to this day it was more likely my brother. Because while I was a good student, later an Army officer and paratrooper, he grew his hair long, got tattoos, used drugs, was in a band, and wound up in prison. He's better now, but I think in her mind he was already way off the rails...so the cross dressing was just one more thing!

Hey, mom, it was me! And I never grew out of it either!

[adraine]

well , my mom did catch me , but i don't really remember what happaned with it ,must not have been the end of the world or i would have rememberd it better,other than that i was able to grow my hair out it was the summer of 1969,so it wasn't uncommon for a guy to have long hair ,but i cherished mine and played dress-up in my sisters dresses that i think my mom gave her , I never had my own though. Then my father came home from vietnam ,and my world came crashing down , with-in days i was wearing a crew -cut ,and the gurl went into hiding for decades , only recently coming out to the general public,my wife of 23 years knew about adraine before we were married,but it was very very low key , I mentioned it to my mom (only because my uncle her brother caught my wife and i coming out of a gay bar after i had finished a drag show and i was dressed to kill )and i didn't want gossip about what i was doing getting back to her with out it coming from me ,so I mentioned it and she said she always knew , but kept hoping that it was a phase i would out grow opps just hid it really well i guess

[Phoebe]

My mother had me wear dresses when I was four and five years old. She made dresses for the neighborhood girls and if the girls were the same size as I she would have me stand on a chair so she could place straight pins around the bottom to make the hem straight. A few times she had me model those dresses for the neighbor women in the living room of the house. She made a little extra cash making dresses and her Singer Treadle operated sewing machine was used quite a lot.

I think my mother suspects I still wear women's clothes and has never confronted me about that suspicion.

[Gillian84]

In my teens, I was dumb enough to put some of my personal panties through the wash. Mom found them and asked about them, but didn't push the issue.

[Rogina B]

My mother knew and encouraged my exploration starting at age 6. It is a secret she took with her..I am glad for her openmindedness..

[Chiana]

I am sure my Mom knew that something was up. But she chose to stick her head in the sand rather than ask me about it.

[Abbygirl]

I'm pretty sure Mom knew - when I was about 7-8 I used to steal panties out of the hamper and wear them to bed- one time in the morning I stashed them under my pillow instead of returning them to the hamper. Went into the bedroom after school and they were gone. I never brought it up and neither did Mom.

[sandra-leigh]

My mother claims she never knew.

[Angie G]

My mom never knew but I don't think it would have been that big a deal.My dad dressed but neve knew I knew.
Angie

[Angie G]

My mom never knew but I don't think it would have been that big a deal.My dad dressed but neve knew I knew. He never knew I dressed.
Angie

[S. Lisa Smith]

My Mom has told me she didn't have a clue. I really don't know how she missed it...

[justmetoo]

I came out to my mom several years ago and she didn't know, but accepted it immediately. She's just a very open and accepting person. I also came out to my sisters and they also had no clue, but have been very accepting.

[Tara D. Rose]

My Mother never had an idea at all. I guess I was just too careful in that. No one ever suspected.

[Ressie]

My mom knew. She first caught me wearing girls undies at a very young age. In my 20s it became quite evident as I had a pattern of dressing a half hour every day. She must have noticed her shoes, slip and pantyhose disappeared whenever I went in the basement.

[Melissa73]

oohh my mom knows! my whole family knows. at one timne or other, i was always caught. guess thats the benefit of 6 people in the house. but it was a dadt poicy! i dressed, but i didnt talk about it and i stayed hidden

melissa

[lauren_m]

I've always wondered about that! My guess is yes, or at least a strong suspicion, but it never came up.

[Kelly Greene]

when I was in my middle teens (197x) I told my mom that I thought I would have been better off if I was born a girl instead of a boy, I turned down the offer of counseling because I thought I would have been labeled as crazy and locked up in the local hospital round room. Years later (late 198x-199x) I finally decided to stop fighting my feelings and to explore how I felt about gender and cding I told my mom again and said that I just had to figure this out on my own, all mom had to say was that she did not under stand it but she would love me no-matter what I did as long as I was happy. I did ask mom to keep my gender feelings from dad and my siblings and as far as I know she did respect my request. Mom's one lesson for me was to be honest with my feelings other wise I would not be able to be honest with anyone else.

[Fordgurl]

I've always thought that my mom secretly knew. Nothing has ever been said and I really don't think it will. I'd hate to hurt her if she was not accepting, but on the other hand I think she probably would accept it as I always thought she had a hint... I also used to go through her things and try things on and replace them as closely as possible to how they were. And I know damn well she must have seen clothing in my room that was carelessly left about (my own of course) I lived like that for probably 12 years till I finally started buying my own things, and moved out of my parents' house. As things are now it's probably better not discussed for us

[Leslie Langford]

Two things stick in my mind, but I didn't connect the dots at the time:

- I was an only child, and when I was about 9 or 10, my mother bought a dress - allegedly for my girl cousin who was the same age I was - as a birthday present, and she had me try it on to supposedly get an idea of how it might look on her. Oddly enough, this girl cousin lived overseas, and my mother hadn't seen her since she was a toddler.

Looking back, I can't imagine what might have prompted her to buy - of all things - a dress as a present for this girl. Then again, perhaps she wanted to fulfill a fantasy of seeing the "daughter" she never had, and I, of course, resisted this request vehemently the way I was socially conditioned to do, even though secretly, I loved the idea.

An opportunity lost for more of the same had I reacted differently? We'll never know, as my mother has since passed away.

- When I was about 17, my mother drew my attention one day to a newspaper article about Thai "lady-boys". Being back in the 60's, this was quite a sensation (and not unlike forbidden fruit) at the time. Although deeply intrigued and amazed by the story, I reacted nonchalantly with a "whatever" of type attitude so as not to blow my cover.

Nothing more was said about this article by either party after I read it, but again, I can't help but wonder if she was testing me to see if she could draw me out regarding any potential interest in crossdressing (or "transvestism" as it was called back in those days). Being a "latch-key" kid, I had begun borrowing her clothes to try on after school and before she got home from work on a fairly frequent basis by that time, and I can't help but think that she must have had some kind of clue as to what was going on despite my best efforts to cover my tracks.

Reflecting back on these incidents, I wonder what the outcome might have been had I 'fessed up regarding my love for women's clothing, even back then...

[Diane Smith]

My mom had to know something was going on, because I couldn't have been that good at ages 6 - 15 at always putting her stuff back exactly where I found it. In the early years (ages 3 - 10 or so) she would play with putting accessories like lipstick, nail polish and earrings on me, but never lingerie or outer clothing, so I think she had really mixed feelings about my gender expression.

Toward the end of her life, I was often going out and had tons of clothing stashed in plastic totes in the basement, but was careful not to come or go dressed when she could see me. Still, it would have required actively ignoring it not to find traces of my clothes, jewelry and makeup around the house, but she never said a word about it. She died in 2005 without anything having been mentioned about female clothes since puberty.

- Diane

[Barbara Ella]

My mom never knew (neither did I, until after she passed) I find myself wishing I had known much earlier as she was a free soul in some respects, and it might have fun with her.

Barbara

[Krististeph]

She knew something, probably, but it was don't ask don't tell. Not exactly nirvana, but rather progressive for a child of the 20's. Part of it was she probably had no idea of how to deal with it, nor had she any exposure to it except by hearsay, but she knew i was a decent kid, and i don't think Dad knew until well later, if at all.

She was stuck in her ways, her upbringing. The folks loved us, but we were expected to grow up and get out on our own, which i did. Took a number of years to undo some bad habits and other problems, some still exist, but they are all understood and reasonably under control.

it would have been nice to have a supporting Mom, & Dad, but I guess they would not have been themselves if they were. They did try to be good and Christian, and a bit of it rubbed off on me. The CD part certainly helped me to see how acceptance is important, so they did pass along so good. If reincarnation exists, I hope they get a better shake in the next life.

Here's a little song I wrote just now to commemorate this thread.... :-)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cvChjHcABPA

[Beverley Sims]

I often wondered why my mother gave me a talk on feminine hygiene when I was 14. ???