It's only been in the past few days that I've decided to start embracing this part of me, and I know I still have a while to go before I'm even comfortable myself, but I'm already thinking ahead to when I should talk to my wife about my ... er, this.
I have a long and rambly thread in the Intro forum, but in the interest of tl;dr, I'll shorthand it here: I have enjoyed a small amount of wearing female clothes in high school, but started repressing it in college and then ruthlessly suppressing it when I got married. Only with the new year have I decided it's time to accept this part of me.
One of my huge, huge fears is my wife discovering something before I'm ready to tell her. I don't know how she will react. She's actually very comfortable with LGBT culture. She has gay friends, has attended gay pride parades, enjoys the local "Drag Queen Bingo" show, and has a brother who was once a sister. But none of that is her husband. I don't know if she'll be sexually repulsed, or angry, or despondent, or if she'll even want to stay married. I have high hopes, but also great fears about this moment.
I know that every relationship is individual and that there's no blueprint for this sort of thing. But I'd just like to know, from those of you with wives whom you've told: what was your experience like? How did you know it was time? How did she take it? I'd like to hear the good AND the bad, if you're willing to share.
Thanks.