this is the third time i have written and keep getting knocked off.I was scared before telling my wife nervous while telling her and insecure after and still am.I had to tell her as the secret was eating me alive.she has accepted me as andrea and i will make sure she is the very best friend to my wife.only time will tell as to what happens but andrea will still be with me its a part of who i am i hope you find the courage to tell your wife im sure you will have a huge surge of relief no matter what the out come