Freddy, you sure give me a lot to think about.
I do buy your surface premise. Yes, if she looks female, smells female, identifies as female, then she's not really crossdressing anymore. But let's not kick them out of the club, some of them are really cool, and lots of fun to talk to.
Now, like you, I regularly trans-vest. It's fun and it feels good. Also, I like to be pretty.
But, I would also propose that we do transgender.
Wait...hear me out, I read all of yours.
I don't see transgender as an all-or-nothing proposition. Let's say there are degrees, and we go in for a dip from time to time. This is nothing sexual. I'm talking from an emotional point of view.
I have many women in my life, and I just can't often grab an understanding of their way of thinking. Where as we are very logical, systematic thinkers, their thoughts have a strong emotional basis, or even root. I would like to understand this or at least get a glimpse. So I dress the part, and try to gain some of this understanding.
I could go on and on with this, it seemed very important to us back in college. Now, I don't really need to change the world, I just want to sit down and chat with my girls, and sometimes understand where they are coming from.
So for now I dress the woman, I feel the woman, I be the woman. Sometimes, I trans-gender.
Michelle