It seems that every time that we get into a thread about how we identify, it devolves into a terminology discussion. I would like to try an experiment. When someone says they are a crossdresser or transgender, what does that really mean to those reading it? Obviously there are many interpretations here or else we wouldn't have the constant disagreements. So instead of using these words to describe ourselves, lets get to know each other a little better by being descriptive. From here forward, you can't say crossdresser, transvestite, transgender, middle pather, or transsexual. Let's see what is in your heart. I reserve the right to add forbidden words later if someone tries to work around the list, but I believe those should be the core ones.
So let's get to know who each of us really are without the fluid wording. I try to not put an extra work on our fine moderators, so please do not argue terminology in this thread. Let's see if we can have a better understanding of each other.
I am a relative latebloomer. I had tried on women's clothing for a very short time while as a teenager (as in a few months). I thought about it off and on through the years but didn't really act on it. After I hit my 40s, it started coming on. It first was just wanting to wear women's clothing but as time moved on, there was a feminine side to me that I wanted to express.
Today I wear women's clothing when I can. What this means is not at work and not in front of family members that don't know yet. I have progressively told more people and I suspect that will continue. Many of my best friendships are a result of my female side. I get out dressed often and when I could be dressed in either men's or women's clothing, then women's wins out. While the thought of going full time has crossed my mind as an outside possibility, it is usually set aside as I don't want to go through that at work and I don't feel that necessary drive that makes me have to. My path appears to be bridged between the two sides of me. So I enjoy my time as him with some family, especially my grandkids. I enjoy my time as her when I am alone, with friends, or with my wife and daughters. The interesting part of that is that my wife has already said she is sticking with me even if I was to go full-time, surgery or not.
So who are you?