[SIZE="2"]Because I, I can’t stay long
Let the sky roll on
Just a glance and the glance is gone (John Foxx)
The title does not refer to me, rather it refers to MtF crossdressers who come here, settle in for a bit, do some posting, but eventually, yet gradually, leave the premises. The longer I’m here, the more impressed I am with the patience of the long-standing members – I guess this has a lot to do with the joy and sadness of finally meeting kindred spirits, only to see them fade away over time. At this point I’m more used to the “temporary” nature of some members. I like to engage, via a written dialogue, with every person who seeks me out, knowing full well that it isn’t meant to last. I must say I’m amazed that I’M still here; even though I’ve seen many others come and go...
I suppose a lot of people come here to learn about themselves. They absorb what they can from the many voices of experience in residence, and then, somewhat satisfied or completely bewildered, they slither away back to from whence they came. Personally, I like to interject a comment now and then, or submit one of these lengthy essays about the non-understandable subject of MtF crossdressing, just for fun. There seems to be no end of topics to dust off, so I find myself still amongst my beloved peers, those I admire, on most days of the week. Why do I do it? I think it’s become a hobby of sorts for me – sit down, write a little something, think about it, write a little more, submit it, and then go do something else...
I return again and again, but others leave, and their desire to return is either unknown or N/A. Now and then someone WILL come back, but then they disappear just as quickly. Some of my friends on this site gush all over me and tell me I’m the reason why they hang around, which is flattering (and scary), but then they disappear all the same. I keep wondering why this is. Granted, it takes time and effort to read the posts, write responses, and then respond to the responses, and some of us are not predisposed to enjoy writing. Also, it can be difficult to find something that relates to YOU, and your own particular crossdressing situation, and picking through the communal undergrowth can be very tiresome. The latter kept me lurking for three years, but I digress...
Another factor might be unwarranted resistance from people who are not quite like you are. I see this from time to time on this site, and I try to downplay any differences that exist, but the fact remains that some do not expect any backlash against such a personal thing like one’s crossdressing. It hurts, and it makes you feel like leaving, or wonder why you joined in the first place. I’ve been there, believe me, but I log on regardless, sometimes purely as an act of will. It’s almost a masculine exercise to state one’s case and not retreat, not one inch, even though we are dressing against our birth gender for one reason or the other. This leads me to question WHY we dress, if it is not somehow modifying our behavior for the better. I must say that this site is the least bitchy of all that I have been a member of, but people still leave. You know, I miss my old friends...
I guess people come here, get what they want, and leave by the revolving door, while others set up camp and welcome the new pilgrims. Looking at the threads in the MtF crossdressing section, I recognize few names that were here two months ago, let alone a year or more ago. It seems like a river runs through this place, and water is continually passing beneath the bridge. I’m over here, sitting on the shore, watching the crossdressers float by. Now and then I wave to someone, or they wave at me, but soon they are swept downstream, away from my solitary position. I wish they would stay awhile, for it gets lonely at times, and time is definitely NOT on my side...
What are your reasons for maintaining a presence here? Are you thinking of leaving at some point? How come?
I don’t know... maybe it’s me... [/SIZE]