I might have b@lls but I'm a b!tch

[pink.switch.love]

I really want to be a part of this place - I have some confusion though.
I do wear "female" attire [from toes to tits], makeup, polish, jewelry, full body shave, wigs [although i have natural long hair], and I do have a penis. But, I don't feel like I am a crossdresser or trans-whatever. I just do what I like. I have read many posts about people that seem to be in pain or guilt - I want to help those people just be real and do what they want. SO I will accept the BS label "crossdresser" with a certain amount of pride even... I just keep feeling this right wing conservative vibe here. tell me it isn't so...

Love all ways,

pink.switch.love

[Jenni Yumiko]

while it may seem to be censored, this is a private forum, for the most part you can post/talk about anything without being specific, it would be just as if you were at the office having office talk.
I'm pretty sure the other reason is to have a safe area where CD/TV/TS/TG can talk and discuss non sexual topics and just be themselves without a lot of trolling, referrers from spiders, dragging in the person who just want to get off.

my .02

While I agree art is just that art and should be admired, there tends to be a fine hazy line and the average joe doesn't really think that way, they see something risqué and are like ooo boobs, butt, nakedness woot pr0n with no popups!!

[Gretchen_To_Be]

Hi, Pink. First off, I'll bite on seeing your pic but you have to enable PM first. Second, I admire your ability to "do what I like" but it's not so simple for some of us at this point in our lives. It's not that we're right wing, it's that society is not as accepting as you and your SO. For my 25 years in the Army I couldn't exactly show up in formation with a pencil skirt, sheer hose, and some stiletto pumps--even though that's what I wanted to wear in private. Now in my career as a business exec, like it or not I can't just dress however I feel without repercussions. I probably sound like a sell-out to you, but I have to put a roof over the heads of, and food in the mouths of, my wife and 3 kids.

Pain or guilt is not the same as a realistic world view, one that includes consideration of all the people I would affect if I just did what I felt like 24/7, and the potentially very bad things that could happen if I went public tomorrow.

You say it's a BS label and put "female" in parentheses. I think I get it, clothes are clothes and you view things in a genderless way because you won't be constrained by uptight conservative definitions. Great, I admire your freedom and liberal perception of the world! Welcome to the forum!

[AimeeG]

I just do what I like. I have read many posts about people that seem to be in pain or guilt - I want to help those people just be real and do what they want. SO I will accept the BS label "crossdresser" with a certain amount of pride even...

pink.switch.love

Welcome to the club of censored...I too wish everyone who would want to walk outside take those steps...and those who would want to stay inside would welcome others who would like to stay inside in.

I don't know if I would characterize it as right wing conservatism, but a little more Rachael Maddow wouldn't hurt.

[Jenniferathome]

You chose to join this forum. The forum did not invite you. You can choose to adhere to the minimal rules or not. If not, you're gone. That's the great thing about life, you get to choose.

[pink.switch.love]

Is it that I don't have enough posts to PM yet?

I can't find a setting to enable PMs.

This appears to be the best place on the internet to have these conversations.

I find it seriously ironic that there would be restriction on non-pornographic imagery here.

The rules are *very* subjective and what exactly is "fully clothed"? I see many avatars that really don't seem fully clothed to me...

[Gretchen_To_Be]

I think you have to have 10 posts to be one of the privileged few. I think that's an anti-troll policy, and a good one.

[pink.switch.love]

I think you have to have 10 posts to be one of the privileged few. I think that's an anti-troll policy, and a good one.

LOL - I get that - I'm not a troll for sure... ;-)


And I will be around for a long time - I promise.

I do have difficulties sometimes understanding what the big deal is BUT I did go through a huge change in my perspective to get there.

[Gretchen_To_Be]

Well, you my dear have now hit the magic number, and should soon be able to remake this stodgy forum as you see fit.

[flatlander_48]

I just keep feeling this right wing conservative vibe here. tell me it isn't so...

It isn't. Sure, like anyplace else, you will find people from all over the political spectrum. However, what I've noticed is that mostly people keep stuff to themselves. That's not to say that every now and then there won't be a spike, but that is to be expected.

Anyway, I would characterize myself as somewhat left of center. That's where I feel most comfortable. That said, with respect to LGBT related issues I am WAYYYY Left...

[Abbygirl]

I was curious to see this avatar and tried to PM you, the message I got said, "pink.switch.love has chosen not to receive private messages or may not be allowed to receive private messages. Therefore you may not send your message to him/her."

Not sure what's up?

[CassandraSmith]

I had a picture taken down. I think it was easy for me because I belong to another forum (over 10 years now) and I've seen every issue come and go a million times. I've come to trust the moderators there and I have a good feeling about the ones here. I could have been upset or hurt but for now, I'm assuming that they might have experience and information that I'm not aware of yet. Most of the rules at the other site came about through abuses and major problems and I saw them all emerge and get dealt with over the years. I've also been denied entrance into one of the areas here and I even said that if they didn't think I was a good fit, I would be fine with waiting and applying later. From everything I've seen so far, the moderators are fair and judicious in their use of power. I hope that helps soften the blow.

Cassy

[Sharon B.]

Rules are rules they didn't ask you to join, you join because you wanted to and that is why there is rules.

[Beverley Sims]

I would assume you are a person of note for your writing style as well.
People on this forum are not as descriptive as some other forums.
There is more decorum here and I think the replies are of a more helpful and thoughtful nature than seen in some other forums.
A matter of taste really.

[Tamara Croft]

And I will be around for a long time - I promise.

You won't be around here for very long if you break one more rule on this forum, if you don't know what fully clothed means, I suggest you get a dictionary and look it up. Whether you think they are ok or not is besides the point, this is not your forum, you are a guest here until I see fit. You can't send pictures by PM either. Either adhere to the rules, or you won't be around at all.

[Annaliese]

It is restrictive and at first I had problems with all the rules, I feel I have grown up here, it is a safe place, stay a while you you will find friends, learn a lot, and be able to help someone sometime.

[Lorileah]

I think we all have had some growing pains when we first started here. I had posts deleted, I had posts moved, I had photos deleted (however to be fair, I posted and then PM'd the mod of that area to check them, who explained why they were deleted.) Right wing? Hardly. It is a very diverse board and I still have discussions with several members who don't agree with me. But we have a good time usually doing it.

It may seem stodgy but here no one has to worry about their SO coming in and seeing what many consider CD's to be. It is a positive thing. And it is an educational place. If you don't want a label then don't have one but in order to communicate sometimes defining things makes it easier. Really this is a fun group.

[Annette Anderson]

My recent deletion has put me on the straight and narrow to "clean" posting.I even apologized to ERYN, Lots of family fun now.

[Emma48]

I believe that quote is from RFK, not JFK. )

[Persephone]

As Jennifer pointed out so well, "You chose to join this forum. The forum did not invite you. You can choose to adhere to the minimal rules or not. If not, you're gone."

There are about 36,574 CD/TG/TS forums on the web. There are many with less restrictions on posts and photos and I'm sure you can find one where "the weather suits your clothes" (or lack thereof).

As to your political commentary, you are lost and confused and, if I were you, I would suggest that you either learn a great deal more about the meaning of words like "liberal," "conservative," and other such terms before you continue to look foolish.

Hugs,
Persephone.

[Eryn]

Every community has rules. This community is designed to be a comfortable place both for TG folks and for their loved ones. For that reason we don't allow explicit photos, discussion, or language.

And, for the record, I've had a few posts deleted as well!

[Jamie001]

I just keep feeling this right wing conservative vibe here. tell me it isn't so...

Love all ways,

pink.switch.love

Unfortunately there is a significant amount of right-wing conservative vibe on this forum as I discovered on election day last November. There are a some GOP members here! Maybe someday these folks will see the light and understand that right-wing conservatism is not aligned with GLBT goals.

[Naomi Rayne]

Im not quite sure what your getting at. You dont like labels? A lot of people dont like labels, but they exist socially, around the entire world and are ingrained in everyones head from birth. Are you trying to fight against being labeled as a crossdresser? Without a label how would you have found this forum? Mostly the pain and guilt of people comes from people struggling to understand this part of themselves. Maybe for you it was easy, which is fantastic. But for others, not so easy, especially when they might not have accepting SO's or any other potential situation that might cause them some fear and anxiety. All of the people here are real, and do do what they do, regardless of what issues they have in their life. And this forum is also for people with issues to come and talk them out and get things off their mind and get help.

About this forum - This is the best forum i have come across. Its clean kept, well organized, has amazing people, well understanding mods, and a generally fantastic vibe. Yes there are rules, for lots of good reasons, so that there are no problems (and there is rarely a major problem here because the mods take care of it), to protect us the users, and many other reasons. Having a clean forum free of explicit photos isnt about being right wing or conservative or any of that. Its about what goal is in mind maintaining this forum. There is a purpose to this forum just as there is a purpose to forums that allow more explicit photos. This one is about community, love, acceptance, help, and friends. And whoever made the decision that explicit photos dont need to be here in order to achieve that had every right to make that decision because it was their goal to create this forum. There are always rules.