hi, i would like to know the reactions you faced when they found you were your crosdresser. how did you deal with the situation. how has it changed you life after that.
hi, i would like to know the reactions you faced when they found you were your crosdresser. how did you deal with the situation. how has it changed you life after that.
My ex girlfriend told me I was brave but that it had to stop. My current girlfriend sort of said 'is that all you were worried about' and has been very supportive since. I've told a couple of friends that are already aware of trans topics and they were really happy when I told them and my house mates have been great about it too ^_^
Bi-Gendered, Goth/Metal Fan, Atheist, Artist and British
well xdressed, good to hear that you had positive vibes, keep in touch
Originally Posted by xdressed
The only ones that I know of that know I cross dress are my girl friend and her family (a little strange I know). She was spending some time with them on Christmas while I was at work and some of them started asking her some questions. She tried to not say anything but in the end the only thing she could do was to tell them our little secret. She was worried I'd be upset when she told me what she had done and was relieved when I told her I didn't have a problem with her telling them. Getting back to your question, the only one that had a problem with it was her 25 year old son. Her mother, daughter, sister and niece didn't have any problems with it and treat me the same as they did before they knew anything. In fact her sister is even treating me better than before (who would have expected that). So over all I don't think it really affected things much with the people that know.
good to hear that paula, hope you are enjoying now
I finally told my sister a couple months ago. She still thinks its a joke!!
My fiance took it very well and is quite excepting. I've told two of my three kids and my step-daughter and they are all good with it. My life hasn't really changed at all accept for the fact that I'm not hiding it any more.
I know enough to know I don't know enough.
Peace
It did not go well with my immediate family. My wife left me and two of my children basically disowned me. What price we are willing to pay for being ourselves has to be assessed by each individual.
Second star to the right and straight on till morning
same as my story kate
good for you catherine, hope u are happy as a cdIt did not go well with my immediate family. My wife left me and two of my children basically disowned me. What price we are willing to pay for being ourselves has to be assessed by each individual.
well the price you have to pay crissy
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cassexy,
Pleased to meet you and answered your friend request. Staying on topic here, though my wife is aware; we follow a ""Don't ask Don't tell " policy here that so far works for the both of us.
My time here at this site is evident, and her displeasure has been expressed aboutspending time online rather than with her when were both at home. Family and friends would not be favorable as opinons expressed randomly have verified a negative view of it all consistently. Have met several people that have migrated from India to Northeast Ohio and found them easy to get to know. Happy to make your aquaintaince, see you on the home page of this site.
Wife and adults kids and their spouse's are fine with it so are 4 close female friends
Life just got easier after everyone fond out about me.
It happened by word of mouth with my 3 female housemates referring to me as Beverley when others knew I was a boy.
I think the worst reaction was, Oh!
Work on your elegance,
and beauty will follow.
Been almost too easy haha, will try not to jinx it
Bi-Gendered, Goth/Metal Fan, Atheist, Artist and British
well, we didn't exactly tell them (family) I was a crossdresser (like my Mom didn't know in the first place if you've read some of my other posts). Back when I went full time, we used the excuse that I was on a medical study (which I was) and because of the medical study I was growing breasts (which I was) and that having breasts meant it was easier to present as a girl than as a boy (which it was) and that I had been offered a management position in the company I worked for and since I looked like a girl and the job offering was for a girl then I needed to look like and "be" a girl (for the money)..right?. They bought it...
Jenn
Jenn
Well, the only one who knows everything, is my GF, she couldn't be more accepting. Work kinda knows, as I've been wearing womens pants to work. Yes, they should be able to figure out they're womens, I bought them there! I showed a picture of a kilt i want to buy to 2 female co-workers, and they said it was great idea, I then commented that i should be able to wear a skirt if i wanted, and they both said, "Yeah, why not?"
"Normal is what you get when you average out the weirdness that everybody has." Quote from my SO
Normal is a setting on a washing machine, or another word for average.
The fact that I wear a skirt as a male should not be taken as a comment on what you do, or do not wear, or how you wear it.
Kate and Cassexy, I am so sorry to hear of your struggles. I'm in a DADT with my wife, but she's the only one that knows.
Overall it has been pretty ok. My wife was not thrilled but let me express this side of me. Her biggest problem was that she didn't know how far I was going to go, and was it something that was lacking in our relationship that drove me to Xdressing.
Since she passed away I've come out to a select few people and have had positive and accepting responses. I dressed for a friend's Halloween party, at a later party I had one of their friends (a GG) tell me that I must be comfortable with myself if I was willing to dress and go all out with the make up etc. Little did she really know how comfortable it really felt.
I am lucky in that first my wife accepted and then our extended family (mostly from her side) also accepted. Now everyone in both familys and several close friends know and nothing has changed. My dressing is not intended to be in front or for their benifit, but for my own needs. One of my daughter-in-laws gave me pearl ear rings for XMAS, saying I need them to fill out my collection. In short, nothing has changed.
Only my GF knows. By her reaction after having "the talk" it didn't come as too much of a shock to her. She had a few questions, I answered them the best I could and all has been well. She is accepting and supporting and we shop all the time together
Flip Flops were made for Beaches & Bath Houses, We have neither in 2017. Lose the flip flops!
My wife has pretty much known all along. My oldest daughter wanted to see me in all of my outfits and requested a little culling. My youngest started calling me Sue right away and always complimented my appearance. And a friend asked to see all of my sequin dresses (sorry, I had to disappoint her).
I am pretty sure my mother knows because my hidden collection (of her things) was gone one day. My SO knows and is very accepting. And just last night I told two of my GG friends. Both think it is awesome, gave me big hugs and want to take me out in public! I will probably take them up on the offer.
We can start with ex wife; acted horrified when she found out, we later went to therapy as the marriage slowly fell apart, and she admitted had she known about the crossdressing she never would have married me. Then sued me for divorce, blackmailing me by telling me she'd tell everyone we knew about my crossdressing, as well as posting pictures of me dressed in girl clothing on the net. She took the house, money, everything. Friends; treated me like a threat to their kids; I noticed they'd never leave me alone in the same room with them. Then gradually stopped inviting me to family functions like birthday parties (even though I usually give the kids expensive gifts and money for college) and sporting events, slowly distanced themselves from me until they weren't even answering my phone calls. When I would see them eventually, I'd get the 'well, we're so busy' speech.
My mom stays in denial. Acts disgusted if I ever bring it up. Sister barely talks to me; never calls me, answers in one word sentences. Cousin doesn't answer emails or phone calls. Christmas cards have stopped coming.
Nuff said. I think you get the picture. While society tolerates us existing, they still want nothing to do with us personally. Really nothing seems to have changed since the 60's, when we had a neighbor who was gay, but no one was supposed to talk to him or go near his house even on halloween. It's the old 'not in my backyard' syndrome.
Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
My wife knows and was horrified and shocked when she caught me in my corset. That was when she realized that I was for real. We talked and she told me that she wouldn't been with me if she known. If it wasn't for the children I believe she would of left by now.
No one else close to me really knows which is how I like it. I already know how they would respond.
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My wife and now my sister in law know. My wife is back and forth but trying to accept. Her sister is lesbian and dating a MTF TS, so when my wife told her about me about six weeks ago she was pretty understanding. She visited us for a few days and we had a great time hanging out.
Well, I've only told 2 of my friends, one male the other female, and both have been very supportive. In fact, both said it didn't really surprise them!!!! As for telling anyone else, like family......why? I'm happy with the way things are now. If and when I ever meet that special someone, that number will grow the 3.
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