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    Do you think you should have been born female?

    I realize that most crossdressers don't contemplate any surgery, but yet many may wish they have been born as genetic females-should would make life easier, I think. Thoughts? you?

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    Can't say i wish i was a genetic female. I like who i am and i like to CD. Wouldn't quite be the same any other way.

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    Without a doubt, and I had an understanding of that since I was little.
    The question then becomes "What are you going to do about it?"

    Life certainly would not have been any easier though, more correct perhaps.

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    Everyday I wake up I wish i was borned a female

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    Quote Originally Posted by LIKETODRESS2 View Post
    Everyday I wake up I wish i was borned a female
    Goes for me too, every morning… with every breath.
    When lost, alone, or blue I know I can always get through the day, for I've always another shade of lipstick to make things right!

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    Been born female.........Ho yes!!!



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    Quote Originally Posted by LIKETODRESS2 View Post
    Everyday I wake up I wish i was borned a female
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    Goes for me too, every morning… with every breath.
    I absolutely agree! I wish I'd been born a girl. Every day, every morning and with every breath.
    I'm always a woman!

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    Born female? No. I DO wish I could dress the way I wanted without all the negative crap.
    I know enough to know I don't know enough.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LIKETODRESS2 View Post
    Everyday I wake up I wish i was borned a female
    Me too Liketodress.

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    For me it is a one word answer. YES! I feel I am a female, just that I have a part I should not have. I have all the traits and characteristics of a woman. I seriously do not think I would mind having a monthly period, or the risk of getting pregnant, or even having PMS. I can be just as bitchy as a man. veronnie2

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    Quote Originally Posted by LIKETODRESS2 View Post
    Everyday I wake up I wish i was borned a female
    I feel the same. I wish for it every day.
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    Quote Originally Posted by LIKETODRESS2 View Post
    Everyday I wake up I wish i was borned a female
    It's the same for me also....
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    For me, it's a little different. I know I'm male, but times wish I had the body of a female, but not all the time. I feel bi-gender and am finding a happy medium between the two. Some times I go male, other times all female, but most of the time I do both.

    I do wish for a magical way I could become female for a short time, but I guess dressing is the closest I can do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by darla_g View Post
    Can't say i wish i was a genetic female. I like who i am and i like to CD. Wouldn't quite be the same any other way.
    sums it up for me too

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    Yes, I do. I believe I am female in mind and personality, but unfortunately not body. I want to be treated like a woman. All I can do about it is dress like one and hopefully become presentable. Eventually I may consider transition, but it's not possible right now.
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    Quote Originally Posted by harley47 View Post
    I realize that most crossdressers don't contemplate any surgery, but yet many may wish they have been born as genetic females-should would make life easier, I think. Thoughts? you?
    The key difference between a cross-dresser and a transsexual is that a cross-dresser only wants to appear female on a part time basis. The transsexual, if granted the magic wish of being able to live full time as a girl would gladly take that offer, even though she knew she could never be a man again.

    Personally, as I share in my book, I was about 2 years old when I would make dresses out of vacuum cleaner bags, skirts out of towels, I wanted to be a girl even then. I wanted to be pretty even then. I hated getting haircuts, because I thought all I had to do to be treated like a girl was grow my hair long.

    Like many transsexuals, I hung out with girls until I was about 6 years old, when it became a bad thing, and after than, when someone called me a "Sissy" it usually came with severe physical violence. The term "Sticks and Stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me" had obviously never been a Sissy - being called a Sissy told everybody where to throw the stones and who to hit with the sticks - sticks that were usually about 2 inches in diameter - like softball bats, baseball bats - or tree branches of similar size.

    I went into "Stealth mode" learning to hide my true identity so well that I eventually began to believe my own lies. However, when I started puberty, I hated turning male so much that I tried to commit suicide - about 200 times. Somehow I survived despite my best efforts. I enjoyed giving other women pleasure, but didn't respond to their initiatives. I couldn't have an orgasm with a woman until I was 21, and even then she had to tie me to a bed and wear an outfit that I wanted to wear. When she found out that I was a dresser, she dropped me like a hot potato. Left a note on my car.

    It took 2 years to work up the nerve to try sex again, this time with a tom-boy who liked to dress and act more like a boy than a girl. I had hoped that she was transgendered and would accept me for being transgendered. She pretended to, but after about a year, she realized this wasn't just a "Phase" and lost all desire to have sex with me, and vice versa. We did it 2-3 times a year. In her words it was "So he'll remember what he isn't getting". When we did have sex it usually had a price far higher than I really wanted to pay. Having a baby, a brand new car, a daughter, moving to New York (where transgender rights were protected) to Colorado (where transgender parents could be declared dead to their children and ALL visitation rights revoked - but no reduction in child support). She even tried to rape me twice. Once I got over the panic, I ended up enjoying it, which she hated. She even had an affair, which I didn't try to stop, if it meant keeping her. Finally, she told me she was going to marry her boyfriend. I did make her wait a year - hoping she would change her mind.

    After the divorce, I went to gender counseling, and began the process of transition. I was living 128 (168 hours/week - 40 hours at work) in Real Life Experience as a woman. I even found a bisexual woman who shared her lesbian lovers with me. I was ready to start hormones, when my wife showed me a letter from a social worker, addressed to a conservative judge - recommending supervised visitation because my visits were harming the kids. With supervised visitation, the supervisor would have found any excuse - ESPECIALLY hints of cross-dressing - to revoke visitation entirely - without reducing my child support.

    The child support left me with no money for electrolysis, therapists, hormones, or surgeries anyway. I stopped the transition - moved away for what I had originally planned to be 6 months, and after I left, my ex-wife outed me to my son, threatened to put him in a foster home (her husband's sister) - and Colorado revoked all civil rights for the GLBT community. I talked to my kids on the phone.

    If I had known in 1977, what I know now, I would have tried to get out of Colorado to NY or San Francisco and transitioned then.

    Even as recently as 2 years ago, I would have told you I was a cross-dresser - even though I knew differently. However, if - any time between 1990 and today, I had won the lottery, one of the first things on my shopping list would have been the sex change.
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    I wish I'd have been born female, as I've long realized I was different from my male peer group, but I don't carry this realization as a burden. My recent "outing" has freed me from a great deal of the guilt and need for secrecy that I used to feel, and my new found freedom to dress (at home only, for now) is leading me to the realization that my femininity is much more than just the clothes I wear.

    My dressing is proving to be the key that has unlocked the feminine side of my heart. This forum is a major element in gaining the courage to turn that key. Thank you sisters for pointing the way. Elfin
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    thank you for your intensely personal revelation. I am so sorry you have had such a hard life-not just 'in your mind' but with others hurting you so maliciously. It isn't hard to understand why so many fear pursing SRS or declaring being TG--I think most of the stuff we hear about rights for the L,G,B,T community is mostly political--not sincere--or at least the public doesn't accept. good luck with your future. harley

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    For me, no. One gets taken a lot more seriously as a male. I'm not really a physical person in terms of being highly grounded in or valuing physical things, so to be taken more credibly intellectually and artistically is something I wouldn't wish to lose. And one really does get taken less seriously as a woman on average. So, would I have achieved what I have achieved if I started there? Plus, there are other practicalities of life. I can wander around at night and not really feel threatened. People I'm involved with don't think they have a right to "own" me, at least not in the same sense. I can feel safer traveling solo in a foreign country. All things I've just casually observed.

    Do you mean, however, what if I could be female and have none of the previous things be the case? Yeah, I would probably switch even if I could never switch back.

    However, if no one cared whether one was a CD'er or had a trans medical history, and there were no stigma to that, than that would be okay as well, I think.

    I'm okay with what I am in the meantime. I'm not physically dysphoric, which makes it easier. Perhaps in twenty years, technology will have transformed everything

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    Life may have been worse for me if I had been born female.
    I am happy with the status quo.
    Work on your elegance,
    and beauty will follow.

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    well, i agree, i love being a female, love to be dressed as a female, i act feminine too. i am a total feminine

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    My first instinct is to say Yes as I think that I could have done all the things in life that I have done and still have been a female, but (always that but) then you have to think that I would not have my wife and children ( well I am assuming I would not ) so I don't really know what to say.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Joanne f View Post
    My first instinct is to say Yes as I think that I could have done all the things in life that I have done and still have been a female, but (always that but) then you have to think that I would not have my wife and children ( well I am assuming I would not ) so I don't really know what to say.
    Actually, this ultimately the real answer for me, not just about the question asked, but everything. We would all be different, and who knows who that different person would be?

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    Quote Originally Posted by JadeEmber View Post
    Actually, this ultimately the real answer for me, not just about the question asked, but everything. We would all be different, and who knows who that different person would be?
    Yes the more you think about it the more perplexing it gets as like you have said it would change everything , or you can assume it would , I believe that a female can done most things that a male can do so that would have not been a problem but then you have to think ,would I have wanted to do the same things so it changes every thing again , maybe I just think to much , thought you are meant to get senile in old age ( hey maybe I am that is why I am writing this )
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    My gut response to this thread is hell yeah, without hesitation.

    However, as the interesting turn of this thread sinks in; I'm not so sure. I can't help but be reminded of one of my favorite movies as a prime example of how life may be effected by this decision. Watching "Butterfly Effect" with Ashton Kutcher can be very thought provoking when you think about this question.

    My biggest thing to add when contemplating something like this would be to ask one simple follow up question. That would be, "Would the grass always be greener on the other side of the fence?"

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