Right, let me start this off with saying - NOT Mrs Doubtfire or Tootsie please. I'll describe as best I can what I'm looking for:
Many years ago, I watched a film about a couple who were deaf, and their struggles to find love and acceptance in a hearing world. As this is something personal to me, I preferred this over Four Weddings, where the deaf character provided a little comic relief (albiet tastefully done).
So, I'm looking for films (doesn't matter if they're english or foreign, I love world cinema) in which a crossdressing character is treated as normal, or overcomes situations to become normal. Not like Mrs Doubtfire, where it is used as a means to an end, but rather where the cross dressing is just a part of life, or is needed to become part of a normal life.
I hope I'm making myself clear here - that's why I put the deaf example there.
Here's hoping you girls can help