I crossdresser

[andrea lace]

Hello everyone
I thought I would write a post as to why us men find it compelling to dress/act like a woman. I understand that there is a huge spectrum of people here and all dress for different reasons. So I thought I would write down my reasons for dressing like a woman.

First I like the process or transformation that occurs when I dress (even though I look like a man in a dress).

Another part of it I guess, is I feel a deep seated need to cross dress I suppose the reward centers of the brain are stimulated once I start the process and some parts of me changing are more pleasurable than others.

For the most part applying make up is the thing for me that gives me a lot of pleasure it is also the longest part of the process and for me the most important part of the transformation that takes a lot of care and attention and even more practice to get right.
(As a man who is considered by some to be lazy I find dressing en femme takes a lot of work and the work doesn't stop once dressed as getting back to guy mode is a bit of a hassle removing what was painstakingly applied.)

I have read some posts of people that stay dressed for days at a time and some that do it only occasionally I guess I fall into the middle of that category. I try to dress for a few hours each day when the kids are at school but it seems that it takes longer to get ready so I must enjoy the process more than the end result.

For me CDing is definitely reward center stimulation and I believe my brain is wired that way. I have read posts where some identify with being partly female but for me this is not the case. I am male I have no issues with that at all. I am trying to find the reasons why and my best guess would be CDing for me is like adrenaline junkies who throw themselves out of a perfectly good plane or drug users searching for that elusive high its pleasurable and stimulating.

I am sure most out there will say don't worry about the why just do and enjoy. What I was wondering about is to reach that sensation of pleasure when I dress is it necessary to take the experience further.
As things progress and to get the same pleasurable experience will I need to take things further like going out of the house dressed etc?
I have just started my journey and I am just trying to get a handle on things.
Thanks Andrea x

[Diversity]

Thank you for sharing your post with us, Andrea. It was interesting to read things from your perspective.
All the best,
Di

[AmyGaleRT]

I liked this, Andrea. It's been said that "the fun is in the journey, not in the destination." This applies to you in the sense of your journey from male to female each time you dress, but it may also be true in the larger sense, of your journey forward in your life as a CD. This may include going out at some future point; you will figure out how far you want to take it. This is a good thing.

- Amy

[NicoleScott]

For the most part applying make up is the thing for me that gives me a lot of pleasure it is also the longest part of the process and for me the most important part of the transformation that takes a lot of care and attention and even more practice to get right.

I couldn't agree more. I love the process of transforming, especially making up. I take my time and enjoy every minute, As for getting it right, others may not think so, but the guy looking at the girl in the mirror thinks it's just right.

[deebra]

YES, you will take it further and further because it just gets better and better.

[Frédérique]

For me CDing is definitely reward center stimulation and I believe my brain is wired that way. I have read posts where some identify with being partly female but for me this is not the case. I am male I have no issues with that at all. I am trying to find the reasons why and my best guess would be CDing for me is like adrenaline junkies who throw themselves out of a perfectly good plane or drug users searching for that elusive high its pleasurable and stimulating.

This is a good analogy. Crossdressing makes the mundane seem extraordinary, and I seek to keep it that way by choosing the place and time to do it…

[Robbin_Sinclair]

Hello everyone
I thought I would write a post as to why us men find it compelling to dress/act like a woman. I understand that there is a huge spectrum of people here and all dress for different reasons. So I thought I would write down my reasons for dressing like a woman.


Thanks Andrea x

Wait, wait. Do suggest anything to me. Why men find it compelling to dress/act like a women? My quick five are:
1. Because it feels good. Look at how many replies one can get from a breast sensation post. But the products are so good. Blame technology on my addition.
2. We want to be seen. So many posts in the (more somber) writing division of this university emphasize cub scouts or church group. Somebody made them dress up and, gosh darn, the thing was fun. It may start there forever or come back later. Pretty soon we have to play a role to get the part.
3. Because I want to understand what a woman or a weaker person must do to survive in our society. I want to feel like a woman because I want to lose control of the situation. Rely on my charm, looks or some other asset, non controlling.
4. Learn passive aggression. It's so much fun.
5. Learn makeup and dress. It's so much fun. That's me. xxrbbn

[Karren H]

I have never had a reason why I do this..... I just have to..... and I'm not going to make up things to try to justify it to anyone including myself.....

[Mikkigurll]

I dress because it addresses the female part of me and that's FUN!

[docrobbysherry]

I agree with u, Andrea. I'm old and have done a lot of things in my life. Traveled all over the world and seen so much. So, what is there left for me to do that can bring back that youthful enthusiasm of doing something exciting for the very first time?
Nothing is as exciting or turns me on now the way becoming a pretty female does! However, that's normally when I dress in private.

The second thing I enjoy about dressing is meeting other dressers. At conventions or going out together. It's a lot like getting together with "the boys" for a nite of drinking, dancing, and carousing! Only MUCH MORE FUN! This is a completely different experience for me than when I dress in private!

The 3rd thing is interacting with vanillas. Probably the most difficult and uncomfortable times for me. Because I can't pass, period! But, I'm trying to learn and stretch myself with those experiences.

[Trishpdxcd2]

Well in the simplest sense I do it just because it feels good, but in a more complex way probably many reasons. Dressing is very sexual for me but I don't have to have sex if that makes sense. I feel pretty when dressed and I love to feel feminine and desired. It is just as if I tap into a part of me that is very satisfying and altogether different than my everyday life. I don't want or need to tap into that all the time, but it is such a delight when I do.

[darkbeauty]

Take a deep Breath...and Tighten those Laces honey...your in the Cat House Now !

[Stephanie47]

I have to agree with Karen.

I have never had a reason why I do this..... I just have to..... and I'm not going to make up things to try to justify it to anyone including myself.....

I do not have a clue as to why I desire to dress as a woman. I did not have an older sister, female cousins or female playmates, who dressed me up. My mother did not dress me as a girl for a youthful transaction. It was impossible because I had no older sisters or female cousins. There is absolutely no clue for my desires. I've always been in the masculine world. My first foray into cross dressing was trying on my mother's nylon slips which she hung to dry in the sole bathroom of the apartment. I did like the feel. It did not ignite a desire to emulate a woman.

I guess it is possible for a young boy to have some maternal imprinting done on him because his mom always wanted a girl. Therefore, she dressed him as a girl. Grew his hair. Showered affection on his as a girl, and, rejected him when he wanted to be a boy. At least that makes some sense.

Most of what I see posted always deals with the joy, serenity, peace, stress relief cross dressing brings. Some say it is sexual relief. To me that justifies the continuation of the desire to cross dress. It does not explain the initial urge, the cause of action, which makes a man want to go against societal norms and expectations.

I can understand the necessity of spending many hours preening oneself for the 'look.' Yes, it is part of the process. It still does not answer the why of the initial cause that ignited the desire to emulate a woman.

Today, I am fully en femme, sans makeup, battling an onset of moisture ants that have appeared on the kitchen counter. That is hardly a stimulus to be en femme. I feel totally relaxed fighting this latest battle of domestic chores. It does not answer the reason I feel totally comfortable emulating a woman fighting the terrible ants?

[Julie Denier]

First I like the process or transformation that occurs when I dress (even though I look like a man in a dress).

Another part of it I guess, is I feel a deep seated need to cross dress I suppose the reward centers of the brain are stimulated once I start the process and some parts of me changing are more pleasurable than others.

For the most part applying make up is the thing for me that gives me a lot of pleasure it is also the longest part of the process and for me the most important part of the transformation that takes a lot of care and attention and even more practice to get right.
(As a man who is considered by some to be lazy I find dressing en femme takes a lot of work and the work doesn't stop once dressed as getting back to guy mode is a bit of a hassle removing what was painstakingly applied.)

I can totally identify with this. Thanks, Andrea

[Beverley Sims]

Progression does not happen over night.
It starts with lots of preparation and a short time dressed then it's all over till next time.
It is an opportunistic thing too, getting the house to yourself for short periods and then quickly changing back, sometimes nearly getting caught as well.
Months or even a couple of years later you ma walk out the door.

[Laura28]

Nicole, i cound have said it better, that is excatly how i feel when dressing.


"I couldn't agree more. I love the process of transforming, especially making up. I take my time and enjoy every minute, As for getting it right, others may not think so, but the guy looking at the girl in the mirror thinks it's just right."

[AllieSF]

I also agree with Karren. I have no idea as to what is the "real" reason that I dress. However, I can say that I like what I look like when completed and am amazed how much I can change. I like the role playing and taking that role out into the real world to meet and interact with others. I like the excitement and feeling of accomplishment that I get doing this and never getting any serious negative reactions. As to enjoying the trip as much as the destination, i.e. the transformation process, I really do not get a kick out of that. To me it is just that, a specific process that I am trying to make shorter and quicker while at the same time improving the final result. One last thing, this new alternate and part time life style is occupying a very large part of my life right now, impacting, both positively and negatively, my life and I wish that I could start balancing out my life better to eliminate the negative impacts.

[andrea lace]

Thanks for all your comments.
Andrea is taking off say to speak I now have a few outfits and loads of make up. I can see this being an expensive hobby/compulsion.

[nhlighthouse]

I FEEL THE SAME WAY Just love the tightness that panties and pantyhose gives me! I think and know that the process is part of the trip...the feel of silk,nylon and other fabric excites me to no end I am sure it is the same for other Cders. No one gets hurt in the process and it is amazing on how GREAT it FEELS!

[nhlighthouse]

I would love to chat with you girls on CDing even more But I must start somewhere! Can anyone please help me?

[Maria S]

Thanks for all your comments. Andrea is taking off say to speak I now have a few outfits and loads of make up. I can see this being an expensive hobby/compulsion.

Yes CDing is not a cheap hobby but well worth it. It is almost like keeping an extra member of the family. When I read some of the posts it often amazes me how much some must be spending.

Maria

[Lorileah]

I would love to chat with you girls on CDing even more But I must start somewhere! Can anyone please help me?

Keep posting until you get 10 posts, then you can start sending PM's. welcome to the forum

[carhill2mn]

Your post would apply to many of us here. As you have probably discovered, there is no "one size fits all" description of us who are on this forum.

[kimdl93]

Everyone has their own take on this, it seems. For me dressing is entirely a means to an end, with the end for me bing th,person I want,to be. I am dressed and ready,to begin my day in forty five minutes tops!

[busker]

[QUOTE=Stephanie47;3110757]

"I guess it is possible for a young boy to have some maternal imprinting done on him because his mom always wanted a girl. Therefore, she dressed him as a girl. Grew his hair. Showered affection on his as a girl, and, rejected him when he wanted to be a boy. At least that makes some sense."

Stephanie, this would fall under Lamarck's ideas of evolution and it has been discredited. The offspring don't develop based on something that affects the parent that is not genetic in origin. Because a mother hopes for a daughter doesn't turn a male into a CD. This idea does come up quite often though.
With the world-wide distribution of men who cross dress, this is most likely chemical in origin. We are sort of the "side effects" of nature's chem-lab. It is interesting to think about that a lot of prescription medications have side effects that effect about 1% of the users. It would also seem that there are about 1% of the male population that are CDs (as a rough guessitamate) and about 5% that are gay--side effects of nature's prescription drug? Who knows for certain, but science could find out with a little blood work.


ps Imprinting doesn't last forever. Read Konrad Lorenz: King Solomon's Ring. Lorenz first coined the term in his work with birds.