You can't just enjoy being a man/woman/birth-gendered? I mean, I obviously understand why, neuroscientifically, transgendered people can't enjoy their birth-sex -- and I, VERY OBVIOUSLY, understand it to be legitimate -- but I am very upset with myself over the fact that I can't seem to be okay with it. Everyone tells me I'm very, very handsome as a man (I don't always see it, but whatever). Some GG friends, whom I've told about some of my future plans, are sad to know that the "man" they knew may eventually be gone forever. However, as a girl, I feel I barely make the grade -- if I make it at all -- yet still feel irresistibly drawn to femininity. Of course, given that I have BDD, and I worry a lot more about making the grade as a woman than I do as a man, I'm bound to find more flaws in my appearance as a woman. It's still inconvenient.
(This applies to all transgender/gender-queer individuals, not just mtf cross dressers. I just thought I'd post it on the largest, most-frequented board on the site.)
P.S. I invite everyone to vent SIMILAR frustrations. Just to get them the hell out xD Every time a girl gets friendly with me, I remember my gender-issues, and know that I couldn't conscionably enter a relationship anytime soon. I bet pissed. :|