My wife's life would be easier if I never dressed up. All the fears of how far it would go and the fact that if I am also the girl, I really don't need her have been huge issues. It has been very hot and cold for many years. She actually wishes it would just stay in the bedroom, once in a while, and not more. It has always been tough, but she realizes how it means to my well being. It is dadt and tell all rolled into one. For the last 8 months, it's been icy cold.
Now to my point. I am home Saturday and she knows what my day will be like and brought it up. I told her I would "try" and hold off. She said no, she is just jealous that I am going to have a good time with her and she is not going to be there and not needed. That's when this question hit me. Does she emotionally deal with my dressing as though there is a different person? Then she still has her man all the time but is jealous that I want to be with this other woman which is me. Interesting on how she views this.
I told her that you don't even want her in the bedroom anymore and she said she never has minded once in awhile. She wants me and only wants here once in a while.
Anyways, I would appreciate any insight you may have. We really do have a great marriage and understand how tough it has been for her to come to terms with Tami's development. She has always tolerated it because she loves me. But is Tami the girl I am cheating with?
Sorry for long post. Takes a while for me to feel I have explained the gist of it.