Recently I detected another post (one of a long line of posts in this section) that referred, in no uncertain terms, to the male orgasm. Someone assumed that it (crossdressing) is all about sexual gratification, so let’s talk about it, right? The moderator on duty quickly squelched any attempt at sexual discussion, no doubt enlightening the author of the OP as to the vagaries of CD’ing (and the rules). I had to laugh, but not out loud – judging by the disproportionate numbers of MtF crossdressers that visit this neck of the woods, how many dress up purely for some form of sexual excitement?
Can we talk? I guess not, which makes orgasmic adventures via femme garb a DADT kind of thing. I feel sorry for the poor soul who gets turned on by crossdressing, and, even though he (or is it “she”?) crossdresses as a means to an end, he is not welcome at the gates of LGBT. Strange, but true. Unless you’re engaged in some sort of alternative sexuality, with questions of gender thrown into the mix, you aren’t really one of the girls who used to be boys – you are a male using crossdressing to achieve something, maybe upping the ante each time, but you will always revert to your birth gender when the “show” is over...
Crossdressing helps me to sidestep this overtly sexual nature that imbues the males in my family, and it does it quite nicely, thank you. I’m extremely different from your typical MtF crossdresser, because I cannot form a sexual thought whilst dressed. Nobody out there believes me, but there is no arousal generated from wearing women’s clothing in my variation on the “art.” I worship at the nearest skirt hem, as my profile states, and this means I will not, or cannot, spoil this worship by worshipping the other thing I’m trying to suppress. If I want to do the latter, I will not dress in my precious femme clothes to do so. I can’t insult my fetish objects; otherwise the magic is lost...
However, I’m guessing many MtF crossdressers have no compunction about dressing up to reach the heights of personal ecstasy. The clothes are snug and form-fitting, the fabrics are tactile and beautiful, and a cornucopia of exciting feelings flood the senses each time you dress – parts of your body, hitherto hidden from view, are now exposed, you’re rather unsteady in those cute shoes, and you have some shape where there used to be none. I understand. It’s all very exciting, and, I feel, a valid reason for dressing up – something has to give, and (obviously) we can’t help ourselves...
Personally, I spend a lot of time suppressing the urges that overwhelm me, and crossdressing has been, and continues to be, a useful “tool” to contain and modify the male I am. Since I’ve been on this site, I’ve learned that I’m NOT alone, but, to the outside world, MtF crossdressing is a purely sexual thing, and other points of view will not be examined or tolerated. Only here, on this site, may you hear an alternative reason for crossdressing, i.e. one that does not jibe with the accepted view of such things. Just because I dress as a woman does not mean I’m “waxing” towards the inevitable climax. Instead, consider the fact that I’m waning, away from innate masculine urges, towards a calmer space. It works for me. As far as I’m concerned, you do what you HAVE to do...
Are you like me? Do you dress up to get away from it all (male urges, I mean)?
Originally Posted by CynthiaD
