I have read quite a few posts now about telling your SO.
Every situation is different and within those situations are many CDers that chose not to tell there SOs that they like to wear women's clothes. My question is how many members of this forum believe that not telling the wife is the same as lying to them. My wife and I have been married for 17 years and I only told her 3 months ago. I don't believe that I was lying to her all these years. I mean I had a hard enough time admitting to myself that I liked to present as a woman let alone tell my wife about it. I firmly believe that secrets are not free and they inevitably end up costing somebody more than they were willing to pay, but is it telling the one you love lies, when it could end up costing you both so much?