Thanks Brynna. We have a lot to work out and indeed we have a sordid past on top of the whole CD TS bombshell I've dropped on her. She has reason to be angry but I agree with you when you say nobody deserves to be verbally or mentally abused. I know she loves me and I think her aggression towards me is her trying to shake the problem out of me, a hypothetical slap in the face to snap me out of a trance or something. It would've been easier on her also had I thought to find resources like this website prior to coming out. So many of the girls on here have brilliant methods for slowly explaining themselves to their SOs and all I did was tell her that I'm really a woman inside. She even told me that had I just said I like to dress for fun or for sexual purposes that it would've been a lot easier to take. Hind sight is 20/20 though and I'm just thankful she didn't just leave me when I told her. That gives me hope. I know she is willing to deal with me at least on some level and I'm pretty tough when it comes to insults. I can take it (with mascara running down my face from crying) I can take it...