For those who are nervous or simply too afraid to go out in public while xdressed, I wanted to share something that might inspire you. Put quite simply, nobody cares about xdressers or your xdressing as much as you might THINK they do. Here's what I mean.
When I did my first makeover by a pro makeup artist, I was astonished. I sat in front of her mirror and was blown away. I didn't even recognize myself. I couldn't get over the transformation. My cheeks hurt I was smiling so strongly. I didn't know what to do next. I'd scheduled the makeover because I was curious about what it would be like, but I hadn't planned on going out in public. I was too scared. It never even crossed my mind. What if somebody I know sees me? It's a valid concern shared by many, but in retrospect, it seems so silly. I said **** it and walked into a store just to experience it. That was wild. A lot of people looked at me discretely, but nobody marched over and said, "Hey, I know you." LOL.
I'm in Los Angeles after all. There are 12million people here. And even if someone I knew happened to walk or drive by, so what? I don't even recognize myself. How on earth would they recognize me? It's simple paranoia at work. We think everyone is searching for us and trying to find us when the fact is that very few people are actually thinking about us at all.
Ask yourself this, when you go out alone and you're not dressed up, how often are you just bumping into friends by coincidence? Probably not much. If you do, then don't go to those places when you're dressed up. And even if you did, most people go through life on auto pilot. They're either staring at their smart phone or talking on it. Nobody is out looking for you in xdressing clothes.
And then there's the club scene. Many are too afraid to go to CD or gay friendly clubs. Why? Once again it's usually paranoia about being seen. What if someone from work sees me? Guess what, nobody goes to gay or CD friendly clubs to out anybody. If you see someone at a club that you know, chances are they're being just as discrete.
When I started going out in Los Angeles to CD friendly venues like Shine, Hamburger Mary's and others, I was amazed at how friendly, supportive and accepting everyone was. All the CDs seem so happy to be out. It's like a birtday party. Nobody is in a bad mood. Everyone is complimenting each other on their clothes, their makeup, asking where they bought their shoes. Everyone introduces themselves and asks about you. Nobody's trying to dissect you and find out who you "really" are. It's fantastic. In all my years of going to bars and clubs even as far back as college, I've never had as much fun as when I go out in the CD scene. Even if I'm just standing alone having a drink, it's great.
My point is this, if you're on the fence, give it a shot. The fear, excitement, joy and thrill all combine for a super fun experience. I'm completely comfortable going out at night dressed. I still get nervous, still wish my makeup was better, but I always get excited, and the thrill I get out of that beats anything I ever enjoyed in guy mode. Just wanted to share that.
I go out all the time now. I even just go out as jeff wearing womens clothes, just uggs, sneakers, basic jeans and a hoodie onder a light jacket NO ONE EVEN NOTICES AT ALL im cross dressing 
Just get on with living and enjoy yourself.
Originally Posted by Veronicatally
