I have a LOT of GG friends. They're my support group, therapists, and moral support. However, they candidly share everything with me. While I cherish being included as 'one of the girls', I've never heard women talk with each other about the things they confide in me. These ladies confide, and even ask advice about- flacid husbands, hot flashes, sore boobs, vericose veins, their fantasies, fashion, infidelity, cosmetic surgery, jeolousy, and emotions. Also, when I mentioned my upcoming BA, one women I know took my hand, put it on her boob, and said 'check out mine', and another offered to show me hers. I've been to a lingerie party with them, and invited on ski weekends.
I asked my wife about this. She said 'You're their gay friend'. Huh! They all know I'm not gay, so, explain please. It seems a lot of women have a gay friend to whom they can confide ANYTHING, even more than their other GG friends. Apperantly the gay friend is not a threat, and less judgemental than other GGs.
Any of you girls somebody's gay friend? Have you heard of it? Do you feel comfortable when a woman bares her soul to you? My friends all know (obviously) what's under my skirt, so why would they want to discuss menopause with me? I found it a bit embarassing at times, flattering at others.
How about a new term for 'gay friend' like 'bias neutral, confidante'?-Celeste