So much has happened lately, especially this past week, that I'm not even sure where to begin. I will try to break the story up into manageable sized pieces so I don't become too boring. My wife and I have been dealing with my crossdressing for a number of years. I went through the typical stages of hiding it out of embarassment, thinking I could suppress it, guilt, etc. I didn't tell her before we married for those reasons (big mistake and totally unfair on my part IMHO. One of the few things I wish I could have a do over on). We had tried a couple of therapists over the years, somewhat unsuccessfully, and were living in a state of flux. I was still too embarrassed and ashamed to be open about my desires and she just wanted me to be honest with her (she has serious and valid trust issues but that is her tale to tell). With the help of another therapist(on my part) and a very rigid determination to not hide from the issue we are finally reaching some peace and understanding. She understands that my deception was not aimed at taking advantage and I have learned to put myself out there to her without fear of rejection. It has not been easy for either of us, but we do know that we care for each other and we will always be there for each other no matter what. That is the serious and important side of what has been happening for us, the fun side of it, such as shopping trips together will follow.