2nd Outing: Mixed bag of success and failure

[Bree Wagner]

I'm feeling a lot better right now.

It's good to see that talking it out and a bit of time can help. It sure helped me after a few of my more nerve-wracking outings. It does get easier and more enjoyable. Hopefully you'll be able to get out more, relax, and really enjoy it.

Good luck Laura!

-Bree

[I Am Paula]

My opinion. Go out with GG's, male friends, or even by yourself. I think you will get a better idea of how the real world sees you. Don't sweat passing, just be yourself. A group of CD's together will get gawked at. My best fave person to be out with is stil my wife, bless her.

[BlairP]

I am very proud of you. Keep trying. I am still learning myself.

[CD_DIANE]

Looking at your posted pictures, you think that MAYBE..... you are just PRETTY ???

Diane

[Amanda M]

Laura - if I looked like you, lady, I would be out there! Which of course I am, from time to time. If an old fart like me can do it, you can do it better. So somebody reads you - no big deal. Who knows what they have hidden in their pants! As for men who mock, it is most likely that after one look at you, they know they are just not in your league

[AndreaS]

Laura - The first few times I went out (other than just getting gas, etc), I was pretty much paralyzed with fear. I would tend to walk into small parts of the mall or certain stores until I got too scared and needed to go regroup. Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think that years later I would be going through the TSA checkpoint at the airport enfemme in order to get on a plane and "fly pretty." You just keep taking those small steps until you feel comfortable taking slightly larger ones. It's awesome that you took that first BIG step out into real world and now know that there won't be any "film at 11:00" on the local news about your venture enfemme.

[Beverley Sims]

I would suggest everyone you saw were eyeing off a blonde bombshell.
It is unfortunate you appeared to over react.
Was there lack of support from your friend?
better luck next time.
And there will be.

[Suzanne F]

I loved my first 2 times out and both started with dinner out at nice restaurants. I was nervous but I felt so wonderful that it was worth it. I am going out this Friday and can't wait! Some people noticed and some didn't. I felt beautiful aNd that is what I am trying to concentrate on.
Suzanne

[Sometimes Steffi]

Sorry you ended up stressed out. Hope that your future experiences will be more pleasant.

Persephone's Formula states that the odds of getting read go up by the square of the number of crossdressers in the group. So two are four times as likely to be read as one, three are nine times as likely, etc.

Even when your experiences take a downturn like yours did you can always learn from the experience. Besides the numbers, could you improve your look, your walk, etc. "Failure analysis" is what helps us improve, so the long-term result can be positive.

Hugs

There's also safety in numbers. When i went to Keystone Conference last month, it took 2 buses to transport all of us to the casino. So, everywhere you looked was another T-girl.

[Chickhe]

I went through that, don't really have an answer, except if its eating at you just keep trying to face your fear and learn from it. It helps to prepare by thinking about what would actually happen if someone DID notice you...the answer is, nothing. If you act like you belong and demand respect then you will get it.

[Jennifer Marie P.]

Laura its hard in the beginning but be yourself it will get better and you will build confidence real quick.

[nhlighthouse]

My heart goes out to you Laura. I wish I was with you to comfort and encourage you. Baby steps at first and now you can stand proud as a young lady! You rock!
A little FYI, IMHO how about not wearing a Blonde wig for a period as you build you self esteem,courage and perfect Laura ? It could help....Mykchelle

[Ms. Laura]

Well, the blonde does attract attention, but It's my best look and I like it. It looks and matches my eyebrows perfectly.

I mean, I didn't freak out and run away, I just ran out of gas for new firsts. I'll get there. No one harassed me.

Another thing which triggered inside was this realization that was like, "Hey, you're out here presenting as female now, that sort of puts you in a new category" my inner voice said. A holy crap, I'm TG moment. Depending on how you categorize yourself, internally, it can be a surprise. I had a family member transition a long time ago, and it sounds stupid but I never really thought of myself as similar to her and now realize how foolish I am and have been. I mean, I don't want to transition, I don't have that all powerful yearning to shed my male persona forever, but I can't deny similarity.

I apologize if I'm butchering terminology, as I am no expert, I'm only explaining my inner conflicts.

[traci_k]

Honey, if you looked anything like your avatar or profile pic, they were looking because they liked what they saw.If you're going to continue going out, get used to it - you're beautiful! And beautiful girls get stares!
Hugs,

[Loni]

just being a girl you are going to get stares. get used to it.

even in guy mode (but in womens clothing) i had this one gal she could not help but keep looking at my chest. much lower cut top the a guy has on. some stubble from shaving, sad the tan lines are not up to par for the top.

guess just like a real woman/girl gets from a guy checking out her chest?

but not to worry next time will be better.

nobody out there cares, sure there will be some slobs, teenage boys trying to prove something to there friends (a couple of them wish they were dressed up).
but in a group, not a "bad" area, you will not have any problems. just be a girl and do as any other girl does.

when in doubt put on a dress.


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