Hello All,
I wanted to share an update on my progression. Last Wednesday, I began seeing a therapist do discuss the emerging persona of Cassie in my life. I am not depressed, or in angst. Though, I am concerned, wondering, a bit confused. As Cassie has emerged, I begun to wonder what does it all mean, where will I be going, just how much will Cassie take prominence in my life. As I near retirement, though I yet do not know if I will actually take the leap, I do know that if I do retire, I will have a perfect opportunity to allow Cassie go full steam ahead. I can change the direction of my life. But do I want this, will I start and then screech the breaks on only be left in the field not knowing where and why.
So, I sought out a therapist and found, I think someone I will be able to forge a good relationship. He's gay as well, and feel he will be able to relate to my fears, and perspective and be objective. During my first session, my therapist suggested I attend a meeting of the local TG Support Group, who's meeting happen to be the next evening. I would be attending en drab as I still do not have a wig and feel too incomplete to present Cassie in public. Yet, I was so scared because being en drab, I would be completely recognizable and what if someone recognized me. Then of course, the same old argument, If someone you know is there, they must be there for the same reasons, so what's the fear. I mulled it over all night and next day while at work.
End of my work day, I had one hour between the bell at work and the beginning of the meeting. I still was unsure what I was going to do. So, I decided to leave work and just drive. I decided to let my spiritual angel guide me. I guess I always sort of knew what was going to happen because I really wasn't surprised by finding myself in the parking lot of the MCC Church looking at the building, my heat pounding.
So, here I am thinking I'm just a geek, dufus, in my dockers and geoffery beam shirt, looking more like Norm from Cheers than Cassie from the Glam!... I made my way to the door with a sign, which I didn't know, but figured I try.
I tried the door knob, and Whola! it opened. LOL. There were steps down to a basement, and a threshold to an open meeting room. There I stepped in and of course all eyes on me. I sort of just took small steps, waved, and asked, Is this SAGA, they all nodded and said yes, I said, I'm new. Right away, this blond lady came up to me and took my hand and said, Hello, I'm Robin. ....
From that point on, while I can't say everyone just rushed up to me, I felt very comfortable. Turns out, I ended up sitting next to the Assistant Chief of Police who is our LGBT liaison in the department. He was going to discuss the current relationship with the group. I don't know if Robin, the leader of the group felt he would feel more comfortable sitting next to a guy who appeared a genuine guy, but, I'm pretty sure I took care of that when during our small talk, I mentioned that "As Cassie"... LOL, How bold for my initial venture.
So, after the meeting, I made small talk with a couple of other members, and then spoke to Robin again, thanking her for her welcoming. Right away, she said, You must come back, feel free to dress, change here, no one will force you to be anything or anyone you don't feel comfortable being. I thanked her and said, I've never been in public as Cassie, but the thought was so exciting, especially since, it really would not be a big deal.. but of course it would not be ...LOL. I told her I didn't have a wig, and I still am trying to purchase one. Robin told me she may have one from her pre-transition days. Wow.!
So, depending if I can purchase the wig from her, I may very well be reporting on Cassie's public debut in a couple of weeks.
Wish me luck!
Cassie