A couple of threads this morning got me thinking back to the first time my wife saw me entirely en femme, the works.
My wife knew from before we were engaged an over the ensuing years had seen me at various stages of dress, but never completely. She was generally accepting but had that one last condition...not wanting to see me fully dressed.
On the fateful day, I dressed up when she left to shop with her daughter. I had work to do, but by this time I was dressing pretty much full time when alone...so I got fixed up and went to work.
Some months before I'd asked her if it was ok if I dressed completely in her presence. She wasn't entirely thrilled so I put off asking again. This time it was different. I was still dressed when she texted that she was on her way home. I had plenty of time to shift back, thought long and hard about it and called her. I explained that I was fully dressed and wanted to stay that way. There was a long pause and then she said OK...with little enthusiasm.
When she got home I met her at the door. She was not happy. We sat down and talked...she said that this wasn't her favorite. I said I felt a deep loneliness having to keep this from her. We talked about what to do. I offered to go back to solitary dressing if that's what she could handle. She said,no stay dressed, but with little doubt that it was not something she wanted. I got up, told her our marriage was more important than dressing openly and went to shower.
I returned in male mode and went about my business. A little later my wife came to me, embraced me and said she thought we should reconsider, because she could see the joy had been sucked right out of me. In truth, it had. I said, ok, let's talk later.
That night in bed she said " I need to say one thing. It's OK for you to dress around me. I know you're the same person, no matter how you are dressed, and I want you to be happy. After all, it's just clothes."
Since then I've gradually spent more time dressed in her presence...at least 50% but I do try to present as male from time to time, just to maintain some balance.
For those who are out with your wife or SO, please share your first experience dressing in her presence and the context leading up to that moment.