Sounds like you and I have been on the same path. I also started the same way some 50 years ago. Today, dressing just feels right. I like feeling pretty, feeling feminine.Originally Posted by Brenda Freeman
Sounds like you and I have been on the same path. I also started the same way some 50 years ago. Today, dressing just feels right. I like feeling pretty, feeling feminine.
I started too because it was sexual, as I went further and further I began to understand I didn't need to have the makeup and all the outside stuff to look like a girl. It's brought me to a new place where if I choose to wear something I like than I do I want to be more bold and wear not so conventional clothing for guys in public. I've been able to do this while in my workout gear at the local park but not like a skirt or top. Maybe someday .
it has always been a sexual arousal thing for me, as well, and it grew out of a fetish for pantyhose and tights, which i love to see on attractive women. with my wife and girlfriends, there would always be a pair of scissors on the nightstand for a quick snip and tear for access at the appropriate moment. lol!. however, i can also recall finding pairs of tights that had belonged to my sister in storage in my basement when i was a little boy and enjoying putting them on, and that was certainly long before i became a sexual being, so maybe there's always been more to it than sexual arousal.
anyway, it has only been in the last couple of years that i have started getting fully dressed up with a wig and all, and i have discovered that i love spending time "being" a girl, not a man wearing woman's clothing. for the same reason, it's exciting being in this forum. it feels awesome to talk about being a girl! so, while even that arouses me, i've come to think that it's more than that on some level. the bottom line is that feels so good, so there's no reason not to do it, right?!
molly
My way into dressing has also been due to my "fetish" or love for pantyhose. I remember as a very young kid, I would wear moms pantyhose whenever I could. And I recall that I even got permission to run around in the house wearing pantyhose. As I grew older it became a sexual thing, and I it still is today. I love women in pantyhose, and I love wearing them. Besides that I found that my mom had some many different clothing objects and even shoes, so I would try it on frequently when I had the change. That kinda kept on for many years. When my younger brother and I was forced to share room, it kinda stopped, and only occasionally could I slip into a pair of pantyhose.
It wasen't untill I met my GF 4½ years ago, that it came back again. And since I frequently get to wear pantyhose at home, all the other things came with it. I'd say there is a sexual thing to it, but it just as much the fascination and love for female clothing that I have allways had. I've allways thought and belived that women has all the fun and exciting clothes aswell as high heels... As I've accepted this part of me, I've started to create Selina, and now I really just love dressing, and I love the excitment of shopping for it aswell! It's so much fun!
Transgender girl
The short answer is that I am compelled to do it. There are secondary reasons but ultimately it's just an irrational impulse that I follow because it brings me happiness and satisfaction. I do have to actively control it though or I become obsessive and anxious about it.
it seems to have started for most of us with the exposure to someones "unmentionables", once we felt the softness of nylon or whatever that was so foreign to us. I can remember the first time I put on a pair of my mothers stockings when I went to bed at night. I must have been so overcome with the euphoric feeling that I forgot to hide them and the next morning my mother woke me and wondered "what are they doing in your bed".I DON'T KNOW. and so it progressed to panties, that I stole from the dressers of my friends mothers. and here I am today communicating with strangers about my deepest darkest secret. if it feels good and doesn't hurt anyone than "RIDE ON COWGIRLS"
you nailed it there, Selina! i have always enjoyed buying clothes for my wife and girlfriends for birthdays and christmas, and always told them how much better it was than shopping for my own clothes, which i did only when absolutely necessary! men's clothing is just so boring and uniform; so little variety. in fact, the only thing i've ever enjoyed shopping for is women's clothing/shoes. most of my buddies never dare to buy clothes for their wives/girlfriends and wouldn't be caught dead even walking into like a victoria's secret, which i always thought was strange. i mean, don't you know what you think looks sexy on your woman? do you not pay attention to such things??? it makes no sense. the way i looked at it, since i was always buying things i couldn't wait to see on her, it was really a present for both of us! and every woman that i ever bought clothes/shoes for always loved my taste and wore them often. so, now i'm just able to use all that experience for my own benefit and never realized that would be the case at the time!I've allways thought and belived that women has all the fun and exciting clothes aswell as high heels... As I've accepted this part of me, I've started to create Selina, and now I really just love dressing, and I love the excitment of shopping for it aswell! It's so much fun!
molly
I crossdress because I love the feeling of wonans clothes. They are sexier than men's, and I feel more relaxed dressed.
Bouncing is what tiggers do best.
I'm not a girl. I'm a man in a skirt.
I don't know really I started when I was a kid. I loved women so much I kinda wanted to be one. I never told anyone till I matured and realized I don't have to hide who I am. I still get nervous even talking to people about it but I feel more comfortable with myself.
I can't really say where it began for me. I grew up in an all female family (mother and 2 sisters) all my cousins were girls. In fact I was the only boy in the family. I remember looking at their clothes and thinking they were pretty and wished I could wear them instead of my boring clothes.
Fast forward to now. I would be lying if I did not say there is a sexual component to my dressing. However, now that I am out to my wife it is more sensual. Specifically, the process of transforming myself, make-up, wig, lingerie, clothing provides me with a sensuality I cannot get when I go male mode. So long story short, I do it to get in touch with my feminine sensuality and because if just plain feels good
Hugs
Isha
Interesting - my H's role models were women too (his father was a loser) and he says the same thing only the sexual aspect has remained for him for various reasons. Still, it's intriguing to me that men emulate that which they admire. I wonder why we GG's don't emulate the men we admire? Or maybe we do but we don't use visual aids but rather an internalization of what a man is? Think the ball-busting female boss!
Yep, interesting
Some men reach for the things that remind them of feelings of comfort and security when they were very young, to become aroused as adults. Not unlike salmon that return to their place of birth to spawn I suppose.
I guess the reason why I dress is that I have inner femininity. I feel both masculine and feminine, sometimes at the same time, sometimes one more than the other. I usually feel at least somewhat feminine more so than most guys I am certain. What my percentage of masculine and feminine is, I do not know, it seems to vary quite a bit. But I can say that I spend about 90% if not more of the time dressed in traditional men's clothing. And I can say that I have a higher percentage of femininity that is part of my being than 10%. So, cding feels very comforting and relaxing as it helps to connect and express the inner femininity that I have. I would imagine that when I put on women's clothes and heels, I get a similar feeling to how women feel at the end of the day when they take them off, and change into more "comfy" clothes. For me. cding is comfy clothes. I would also imagine that if I were to dress as often as I am actually feminine, that feeling would likely not be such an ahhhh type of feeling. But I would still feel comfortable and connected just the same.
Chickens should be allowed to cross the road without having their motives questioned
i like most everyone else started when i was a child, i dont recall the age the first time i tried on my mothers slip. I beleive now w=she new but never said anything. i do know it started with a slip and progress from there. I remeber vividly the first time i tried lipstick i was about 9 or 10 and loved it(again my mothers). Back then it seemed to be sexual but i dont think that was the reason why i just now it got me excited. I stopped for years but always loved looking through the sunday flyiers at the womans cloths. When i was dating my wife i told her i use to dress and enjoyed it. She said so, Got to love her didnt phase her in the least. I always had a thing for TS porn, loved to look at pictures and video (of course back then there wasnt video but there were some magazines. Once my wife and i started living together i would try her stuff on when she wasnt home even though she didnt care i hid it from her, one day i went in her bra drawer and there was a new bra with a note that said stop using mine you are stretching them this one is yours, that went on for year we purchased some more things for me, then it stopped Kids came along and for years i didnt dress ocassionally i would try something of hers on when alone and still thought about it. then about 5 years ago it came back with a vengance, and this time i have taking it further then i ever had. Make up cloths wig forms etc... So i told her i was dressing again and she said good i know you like it so you should do it. I should say that it is not sexual in way now although my wife and i will be intimate when i am wear bra and panties. Now it is just something that is part of me. I love when i am dressed i love putting on make up and seeing the transition to Laura. What i find funny is that although my wife loves laura and considers her just as impportant as my male side in our relationship and she has no issues with me dressing and seeing me dressed however she does not want to see me with a wig??? Make fine cloths fine forms fine but she draws a line with the wig, yet she likes when i am away and send her pictures all dressed wig and all???? Any thoughts on this from anyone? So that brings us to present i am lasering off all my hair which she loves and so do i my breast are a 38 full B or small C natural ( i do pump and have been for years) i would like to be more femme hormones but wouldnt want to go all the way if that makes sense? I do know this i have a side of me that is fem and i enjoy her and have accepted her. i am relaxed when dressed and calmer.
I just love the clothes and underwear, how they look and feel.
Started when I was a child. Probably around 9. 1st were panties then a bra. Wasn't sexual just felt right, like I should be wearing them. Was always told as a child to pretty for a boy , he should of been a girl with the long lashes, and complexion. Then puberty hit and having some gynecomastia. Embarrassing yes, but I had breasts, enough to fill a small cup bra. Talk about confusion. Would under dress when younger and the colder weather and heavier clothes would hide anything I was wearing. But always it would make me feel calmer , pretty, how could this be wrong? But like most of us , you hide it. Put her away and the calming feelings also. Now I am understanding more about my inner girl. Excepting the waves of emotion, she brings to me. I feel now the release of my inner girl ,is just as satisfying as when I would dress, in my early years. There's more of a relaxing sense of peace now. Don't get me wrong the dressing is just as fun, but now I express the emotions so much more. It feels like a complete package now. Not bits and piece's.So that is why I dress to feel complete. Alot of what I understand now. Is because of all the girls on this forum. Your experiences , heartfelt advice, the pm's , the helping hand.I have learned about myself . I am a better person because of you girls.
Follow your path.. For only you can decide, which way to go.
I dress for the styles and colors. Since my favorite color is pink well that leads me to the women's department obviously. With everything in my life I am always asking myself "Why can't I do something?" Why can't I wear a skirt? Is there a law that says I can't? Why can't I wear this? I have always been a nonconformist. Why do I have to do things this way? and so on and so on. I just opened myself up. So what if it is sold in the "women's" department. Just because a store employee happen to stock that particular item in the women's department does that mean that only women can wear or buy that item now. Why are the clothing rules different for men and women? They shouldn't be and I break that rule all the time by wearing skirts and such in guy mode
All I'm going to say after reading all the posts above is "Ditto"
I am what I am. I do what I do. CDing is just what it is for me, regardless of how I got here.
I sometimes think I'm such a fairy
It's a way for me to express myself and how I feel. Not sure I understand it and frankly I don't care to dissect it. I chose to remain private with it, and share it only with my accepting and supportive spouse. I'm perfectly fine with letting the deeper meaning examinations/debates occur through by the good folks here. I read their feedback, but don't get wrapped up in the philosophical "what fits where" stuff. Prefer to spend my time browsing shoe sales
I got hooked on panties slips and silky or saton dresses
Because it makes me look like I'm supposed to look. It makes the person in the mirror look like the person I've always imagined myself to be. There was never a time when I didn't feel this way.
Ryenmatt, your ideas parallel mine in many ways. I also don't believe in "passability" and would like to be just "a guy in a skirt".
I just love being a girl. Have felt this way my entire life. Short of transitioning, which is not a possibility, this is as close as I am going to get. But I so love being a girl.
Hugs, Robin
I believe the very fundimental nature of this argument is sexual and for all of us to some extent sexuality drives our desire to dress up. I started when I was 5 and have done it off and on all my life. It destroyed one marriage and also found me the love of my life and honestly everyone who I have come out to with the excepption of my ex has been supportive and understanding. Socially we are undergoing a renissance of gender unlike anything in history and it is an amazing time to be here.
I agree to a certain point but it may not be 100% sexual for everyone, but it is for me. I just started dressing a couple months ago and I can tell you that I love every second of it, masturbation doesn't come close and better yet you are not hurting anyone, at least in my situation since I don't have a family.
xoxo
izzy
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