I have an interesting dilemma, and I'm looking for advice from other forum members - and especially from the GG members here.
As a lot of you know from my previous posts, my wife and I have been in a DADT relationship for many years, although her stance in this regard has softened in the past year (finally accepted the inevitable, and maybe weary of the protracted head-butting?).
I now talk freely and without shame about my crossdressing when the subject arises, and I go out on a regular basis as "Leslie". While my wife doesn't want to see any physical evidence of my inner girl, we are at a point now where I tell her openly when I am going out and I don't sneak around behind her back anymore. We also we have an unspoken agreement that kind of developed by itself wherein she will have gone to bed before I return home so that she won't have to see "Leslie". I, in turn, no longer have to make convoluted arrangements to slip back into "guy" mode before re-entering the house.
All of this worked well while my wife was still working, but she retired from her job of many years at the beginning of the month and is now home all the time. This has put a severe crimp in my "Leslie" activities, but I can live with that for the time being as we both adjust to the new reality. Come the fall, however, I plan to have a good heart-to-heart talk with her to see if we can agree to a new arrangement which will give us both the space we need.
But here's the kicker - and the reason for my post...
My wife has a few girlfriends currently who are outgoing, engaging, and fun to be with, and she is very compatible with them. The downside is that they are also homebodies and - not to put too fine a point on it - a bit on the "stick-in-the-mud" side. She, on the other hand, is more energetic and loves to get out there and do things - especially with all that free time she has now along with her pent-up desire to start checking items off her "To Do When I Retire" (Bucket?) list.
So the other day, she starts musing aloud along the lines of "I really like all my friends, but wish I had a girlfriend whom I could do actual "girl" activities with, like going to the theater, visiting farmers' markets and antique stores, shopping, getting mani's and pedi's together, going to outdoor summer events etc..."
Are you connecting the dots here yet?
Well, the fact is - "Leslie" loves to do that very type of "girl" thing herself when she is out and about, but so far she has been a solo act. She would dearly love to have a GG companion to share in those activities, but that opportunity has not presented itself yet. So in theory, a match made in Heaven, right?...
My dilemma is this, then...how do I drop the hint (and without my wife dropping an anvil on my head - LOL!) that maybe she should look no further than "Leslie" to find the "girlfriend" that she is seeking, and that maybe we could find a way to compartmentalize the activities that we did in "girl" mode while I could still be her "man" when it came to doing traditional "couples" things.
It's a tantalizing opportunity for opening up a new dialog and one that I'd like to pursue, but I don't know how much to make of this off-hand statement by my wife. I also fear that it might back-fire on me big-time, and negate all of the the progress that we have made in other areas so far pertaining to my crossdressing.
Have any others here been in a similar situation, and if so, how did it go for you?