Hi Zaack,
Thank you for the warm welcome! He doesn't ask my permission, but he lets me know what's going on. Not sure if that counts as "discussing" :-) My issue is that I'm attracted to him as a guy, but I'm not attracted to women in general. There are rare exceptions, but he's not one of those exceptions. He looks fine when he dresses, but it makes me think of him non-sexually. So I do worry that more and more of our time together will be spent with him looking less and less attractive to me. Just as if he started smoking, and his breath tasted bad so I no longer wanted to kiss him. That's a loss to me.