So here's a fun situation (and I mean fun in the "chaotic" meaning).
My wife told me tonight that she feels extremes of feelings. Sometimes she really wants to see me dressed and for me to be a woman, and sometimes she'll buy stuff for me, bring it home and give it to me, and she doesn't ever want to see it.
It's kind of bipolar.
Now, I'm definitely gender fluid. I definitely oscillate between the two. There have been times recently where I was a man and she wanted me to be a woman, and when I was a woman and she wanted me to be a man. Not quite a match in cycles. So that's worth considering.
But here's the real issue: She wants to talk to other GGs of CD SOs. She wants to know she's not being a psycho. I told her that from what I've seen, this is common, there are plenty of other women who feel as you do. For further information, please consult them, because I don't have it. That sort of thing.
But it's true. We've seen it plenty of times here (you might have to dig in the archives for it). Plenty of women will be supportive of their husbands being women one day, and the next day, well, sorry, I wanted a beard and you just didn't have time to grow one.
So, anyway, she came looking for this place and ended up at one of the other crossdresser forums available. When we resolved that discrepancy so she could come here, she registered with a yahoo email address (which is apparently banned under the ymail.com ban currently in force to prevent spam).
So as a result, she has an "active" account, but she can't post.
I question that, but that's probably my schizo paranoia kicking in.
I want her to talk to other GGs. I want her to talk to Greenie and ReineD in particular, since they're quite active and quite vocally GGs. I would like my wife's name here to be as respected as the two of them, to be honest. More importantly, I want her to see the FAB forum. I have no illusions about it, I assume the worst and expect the truth isn't so bad.
At the same time, were she to dig, and I can guarantee she will (there just happens to be a lot to dig through), she'll find stuff that's not exactly flattering to her, and she'll have an issue with it. To that, I can only say "If you wanted this to flatter you, you should have behaved in a way that it flattered you".
I did suggest she go with another place, since it was apparently so difficult to come here, but she was accepted somewhere else.
She didn't, there's no follow-through. That's never there. If it happens "now", it happens, otherwise it doesn't happen.
This is a reflection of her acceptance. "Right now" she accepts it, but I don't know if she will in two hours. I know she doesn't like it if she falls asleep first and then I get dressed up and lay next to her.
And she doesn't know that I know that she's not accepting then.
There's not a specific question here, there's a lot of things to respond to, and I'm interested in all responses. But when you respond, this is something to consider:
When I started posting here, I posted a story about me getting arrested while dressed. One of the results of that is that she lost some feedback into when/how I dressed. In practice, she lost all feedback, and she is currently incapable of asking me NOT to dress. I don't find that unreasonable, because I view the arrest as her using the CDing as a way to control me, and she doesn't view it that way. In any case, the end result is that I wear whatever the hell I want to and I ask her input to make it look good. If she has nothing to offer, then I move on.
It's a tad inconsiderate, but at a certain point, I feel like I have a right to be accepted as I am, and if she doesn't, I'd rather be single.
So, responses, please. I've gotten a lot of "your wife is awesome", but it's not so cut and dried.