Are You A "Selfish" Crossdresser?

[RebeccaLynne]

Just checking responses... thanks to all of you!

How refreshing! An honest CDer!
I have been told that I am a selfish person, too.

GW... you can't imagine how relieved I am that the first reply to this thread is positive and like-minded, as well.

And thanks for being refreshingly candid... that's what I'm looking for!

Rebecca, my dressing is for my pleasure, not that of others. I do it because I like it, identify with my feminine persona and have fun with the whole 'transformation' process. Should it ever become something done strictly for others, I believe it would diminish my enjoyment.

Why take something we do for the love of it and turn it into work? Just my little old opinion.

Hugs, Robin

Robin, we do this for ourselves, and to try to find happiness in our own lives... it's a labor of love. Working is just a means by which to pay our bills, and buy cute outfits!

Absolutely not! My wife, kids, and life in general comes first. It's never a struggle to make that call. Time has to be truly free to enjoy that aspect of my life.

Jennifer, you'll get there. Kids grown, you retire, and your spouse is OK with it... let the good times roll!

You hit on something that I think is quite important. Relationships can blow up because of this. Not because of cross dressing, but because of the selfishness than one might exhibit.

They can. Yet my own relationship struggles because of the CD'ing. That is the sticking point. She would rather I didn't, and I'll do what I please. If that means less time together, than I'd rather be happy alone than resenting the time we spend together during which I wanted to be CD'ing.

If I were selfish.... I wouldn't have been married for 38 years..... other that short bouts of it.... which are quickly corrected by "she who must be obeyed"

Karren... you're whipped! Now if you could just get the missus to be your dominatrix... no problem!