or say should they find out ... is a pretty common thought process here.
But isn't it just plain Human Nature that your coworkers ARE going to talk about you and probably already do? I am asking about ALL coworkers of everyone, regardless of if one is a CDer or not? Maybe MY REALITY is not real? Not real because I don't live in the "RW" because I have worked for the Fed for 15 years and then for my local government for the past 26 [predominately with men if it matters any] and both places were the same.
The same in that anytime there were 3 or more people gathered in a group and person A leaves the room for some reason, he becomes "fair game" as soon as he or she is out of earshot and almost invariably at least one other person if not several will pile on with their own criticism and rarely will anyone step in to defend person A. Is this "normal" behavior every where? Or only for people who don't have enough "work" to do? It's not that I don't EVER hear one person praise another, but it's exceedingly rare and rarely will the "group" think involve adding MORE praise.
Maybe men are just more likely to criticize than praise?
I am quite certain they talk about ME once I leave the room. No reason they would not because it has been my experience that EVERYONE is fair game for just about any reason imaginable.
As long as I still get my paycheck every two weeks, I think I can live with it.