If you are at all interested to know what general therapists and gender therapists are learning about the crossdressing so that they can help you, you might want to buy this book:
Google book preview: Counseling LGBTI Clients - Kevin Alderson
They've devoted Chapter 7 to crossdressers and chapter 8 to MtF Transsexuals.
It is intended to be a text book and so it draws its information from virtually all the academic, peer reviewed studies that have been conducted in the trans-area. It is a modern approach since it was published just this year, and it suggests an affirmative approach to the counseling rather than an attempt to "cure" (page 151).
The publisher is making public the entire Chapter 7 (on crossdressing), and so I thought those of you who are looking for answers for yourselves or who are contemplating gender counseling with or without your wives might be interested. I'm posting this in the MtF CD section and not the Media section because the book is not a news source to be debated or commented on, but is rather counseling for crossdressers. There are even textbook exercises for the therapists, so you can imagine yourselves back at school learning about this.
I think that we are very fortunate to have been given Chapter 7 for free:
Chapter 7 entire PDF