I am a 32 year old crossdresser. I have been married for 5 years. I have 1 daughter and another son/daughter on the way. My wife found out about my crossdressing. At first I lied and said I only did it a couple times and I stopped. About a month later she found out I was still dressing and threatened me with divorce. I came out and told her almost everything. I said I dress, I like to dress. It makes me feel good about myself. Since we are now having our second baby, divorce questions have stopped but our marriage is different. We do fight a lot and she has lost respect for me.
I still continue to dress on my own and am as careful as possible. I was afraid to tell her in the beginning because I was expecting the same reaction I got how much she hated it and I am a freak and gay (think gay slurs). I told her I only dress by myself.
However the last year I have become not only attracted to other crossdressers but men as well. I get very excited engaging in sexual relations with a man. I never ever even think about having sex with another woman and I am always the bottom so I am never the giver in the act.
I love my wife very much but the most important person in my whole life is my daughter. I would do anything and everything for her. I want to put my dressing aside and especially my bisexual tendencies but the more I put it off, the more I am turned on by men and crossdressing. I am constantly compelled to buy dresses, lingerie, skirts and tops. I have even gone out shopping dressed or not dressed and try on clothes. I am very close now with this girl at the lingerie store and I tell her how I excited I am dressing up for my men and how it turns both of us on.
I am nervous, I am scared. I don't know if I am gay. I am so afriad to lose my wife and most of all my daughter. I am also afriad of my family finding out. I am also very afraid that I prefer men over my wife. I don't know what to do. I am freaking out.