Like many CDers I do a lot of thinking about how femininity is perceived, mostly with a view toward improving my own presentation.
An incident happened today that gave me pause for thought. Don't worry, it's a positive one!
Mimi and I went out to breakfast at a new restaurant. Since we were within my NFZ I was in my normal male mode of T-shirt, shorts, and athletic shoes. Close examination would reveal that not a stitch of it was from the boy side of the aisle but none of the garments were overtly feminine. Here's what I looked like:
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We were seated at the counter and the breakfast was excellent. Various waiters and waitresses attended to us, refilling our coffee cups and bringing the dishes. One waiter refilled our cups and says "Is there anything else that I can get for you ladies?" We said "no thank you" and he went off to serve other customers.
Well, this was an interesting occurrence! In his brief contact with us he had decided that I was female despite the fact that I'm tall, have short-cropped hair, wear guy-style glasses and was without makeup, bra or forms.
I was definitely showing some feminine cues. My top was a color and design that might be considered feminine. I was wearing crystal studs in my ears. My legs are shaved and I was wearing shorts, but these weren't visible from where the waiter was talking to us. My face is quite smooth from laser and electrolysis. I was sitting closely with and acting quite familiar with my wife, behavior which could be interpreted as that of two girlfriends.
There were masculine cues as well. I was using my guy voice which is deep. My chest was flat as a pancake. My hair is cropped short. The only jewelry I wore other than my studs was a plain wedding band. My mannerisms were my normal male ones and I was actively watching the sporting events (American football and Superbike racing) on the nearby TVs.
Mimi and I speculated on this afterward. Did the waiter walk away thinking "Wow, I called that guy a 'lady!' Luckily, he didn't seem to notice!"? Was the waiter convinced that he had judged my gender correctly when I didn't object? Does Eryn really leak that badly? Was the waiter TG and recognized me as the same?
So, what was it that flipped his gender recognition switch to "female"? Whatever it is, I'd like to get it in a bottle!