In guy mode, not so much.
In Jodie mode, well, I will confess, I spend some time checking out the boys.
In guy mode, not so much.
In Jodie mode, well, I will confess, I spend some time checking out the boys.
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I love men at all times but the urge is definitely even stronger when I'm dressed. I've only been with a few men sexually but always dressed and they knew the situation. (Every time was great!)
I'm always a woman!
I think it is somewhat natural when presenting as a woman to have an attraction to men or at least be flattered when they are attracted to you. Sexuality is a spectrum and and I don't see people as strictly straight or gay or even bi though many identify themselves as such. I see it as more fluid. I constantly get hit on by so called "straight" men online. Are they really bi? I don't know. I think they are attracted to femininity and perhaps the fact that the plumbing is different adds an element of excitement. Many men are curious about a penis, they just don't want it to be attached to a man.
I agree. I think there are at least some straight guys who like playing with a penis as long as it's attached to a guy all dolled up en femme even if not completely passable.Originally Posted by trishwannabcd
Hmm...I haven't really been "out in the world" as Amy long enough to really consider the question of attraction. Since I'm engaged, the question is academic at least to a certain extent. However, I'm not certain how I'd react to the attentions of an otherwise-respectful gentleman. Probably I'd feel like blushing.(If Sabrina happened to overhear his interest, though...God help him!
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I think you should watch the serries on Netflix : Hit and miss. and then you would know a lot more answers to your question. Personally I have often felt exicted about men hitting on me although I would not go that far myself, but yes, when in woman expression, male attention can be fun. Sexually speaking, I think I would feel much more comfortable with a female partner. I speak of this abstract because I have a SO and am happy with my situation.
Sejd
There have been many threads about this over the years, each with a huge amount of posts and insane amount of hits. I think the last one, about 60% of the respondents had positive responses, while 40% were not interested. So you're not alone.
To answer your question about tranny-chasers otherwise known as admirers, you can take it from the TSs in this forum who say that whenever a man is interested in a CD, TG, or pre-op TS, it is because they have the one body part that GGs don't have. I don't think the level that you pass will matter all that much to a lot of admirers.
Here's an enlightening essay on the subject, written by Dr. Richard Novik, a.k.a Alice Novik, author of "Alice in Genderland":
The Men Who Might Like MtFs
Reine
Not true.
There are MANY men who would date a girl like me (pre-op) but only if I was 100% passable. The mythical unicorn.
The girls in tranny porn aren't even 100% passable in person. I've met a few.
The problem for late transitioners like myself is finding a man that will date us even though our past is not a secret. (and I'm freakin' hot!)
Transition is a young girl's game.
Preachin' the choir GFAt least finding a guy who will date us OUTSIDE a gay bar. I feel like a secret mistress even when the guy isn't married. They don't want to be seen by "friends" (and I think I am freakin' hot too)
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To Misty and Lori ...
Not that it means anything, but single middle aged genetic women don't have much luck on the dating scene either.
Reine
I'd date you RD!
...If only you had a giant pickle. (shrug)
LOL. Well, thank you Misty!
... I can think of a snappy comeback, but it wouldn't be appropriate for this thread!
Reine
Attracted to dudes, a bit curious about women but it's always been that way more or less.
Nothing likely to happen in the immediate future though so it's kinda moot anyway.
I'm more worried about being inexperienced and being taken advantage of tbh, but again, lightyears in the future.
Wow, It's good to hear how people feel about this subject...I can definitely appreciate the different views and opinions which people have, I think if everybody felt the same it wouldn't be as interesting.
When I cd, I don't do it for anyone else other than myself and by no means am I passable so it really wouldn't happen to me as far as any guy being THAT interested
In my everyday guy mode I've never actually met a CD in person, like dressed and dolled up....although my mind does wonder what it'd be like as a guy (me) and another CD, curiosity really but I don't think I'd actually commit to anything sexual
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Reine, believe it or not, there are men out there who are looking for someone just like you.To Misty and Lori ...
Not that it means anything, but single middle aged genetic women don't have much luck on the dating scene either.
It's interesting that you see it this way.
My SO (who does not participate here anymore because there is no longer any need to) first joined this site at the same time as me, to try to meet people in our area that s/he could go out and do things with. It gets lonely just always being alone while dressed. This was when my SO was just learning to go out in the mainstream. Neither of us drink or smoke and so the LGBT bar scene, although entertaining, was not a great venue for us to be social with the other people who went there, plus we rarely met other "Ts" other than the Drag Queens.
At any rate, we noticed that a lot of (newbie?) CDers feel odd about first meeting other CDers because they think there are large chances that the meetings will have some sexual overtones. I've also often read in this forum that a more experienced CDer will nicely offer to meet someone in the spirit of support, but then they're stood up because the newbie gets cold feet at the last minute, thinking things that are not there at all.
There are of course some homosexual CDers who are naturally interested in having relationships with men, and also some hetero CDers who are in it for sex and whose fantasies of being desired as a sexy woman make them think they might want to have sex with a man ... but I'd say that these latter CDers are in the minority when it comes to actually going out there and trying it. The realities in real life tend to be rather sobering.
Vickie, thank you, that's nice of you to say.
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Reine
I fantasize about me being a bride with my groom, mostly when dressed. But I doubt I would ever get up the nerve to try it. I am technically not attracted to men.
"Boys can be Brides too!"
i am also attracted to cd/trans girls, men no
Just by reading through the posts that are submitted on this site, I can't help but feel that, for the majority who do say they would be attracted to men, are only saying that from a position that makes themselves feel more "feminine". In other words, just as putting on a dress, or make-up, or forms, it's just an expression that enables them to embrace their feminine side some more. In short, it's a fantasy, one that is as detached from the real world as being perceived, without any doubt, as a woman in the real world.
The crux of the matter being - it's a fantasy that is selfish at its very root. It's all about how it makes the person expressing such a wish feel. Not one that takes into account how the other person may feel. But that's the reason for a fantasy after all. A self, internalised, expression of a dream. No other people play any part of such a fantasy. By it's very definition, it's all about ourselves.
The problem with fantasy is obvious. The moment you find yourself in a position to act it out in reality, it's no longer a fantasy. There IS another person involved. It doesn't go to plan. It's not what you "idealised" it to be.
There's nothing wrong with fantasy - embrace whatever it is for you. But it will never be a reality for you.
I don't see why it has to be fantasy, guys are hot and sexuality is very much a spectrum.
Corinne, you don't have a long history of thinking yourself hetero and having had sexual relationships (and children) with women. Jenni is talking about the long hetero-identified CDers who begin to fantasize about having sex with men while dressed, at some point in their later lives. Jenni's comments do not apply to homosexual or truly bisexual CDers.
Jenni, I completely agree with what you say ... that for the CDers who fantasize without any real intention on following through for the purpose of establishing a long-term romantic relationship with a man, the fantasy male is only a prop to enhance the fantasy of being a sexy woman. This could be construed as selfish for the male-props involved, but the admirers who are also interested in this fantasy don't mind playing along since they (broadly speaking) also are not interested in forging a long-term relationship and having the CDer meet their parents and their friends.
I agree there is nothing wrong with the fantasy either ... unless the CDer is married and the fantasy supplants any interest he might have in his wife.
Reine
I think that a lot of girls find it exciting because it helps to affirm their femininity and it makes them feel sexy. I know it has that effect on me but I also am bi. I never saw any good reason to deny love from someone just because they have the same plumbing. I enjoy sexual experiences with both and find both sexes are attractive in their own way and I am attracted to CD's. I think there are so many gorgeous girls here and would love to meet some of you beautiful ladies.
To Misty and Lori ...
Not that it means anything, but single middle aged genetic women don't have much luck on the dating scene either...............
"it all unfolds before your eyes ,let Merlin cast his spell" [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
I really want to be a bride! I will be the happiest girl ever if it happens one day.
I remember that closed thread! It was a classic. Best quote was Tamara's "Do you think if I dress like a fresh water dolphin, I'll be attracted to other dolphins? Seriously.. clothes don't make you do anything, they are just garments.." Classic, but so true.
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