so what do you do?
do you get upset?
you get more dates from women as a girl then a guy!
you get guy attention but you are not interested.
you look better as a girl then a guy!
so what do you do?
do you get upset?
you get more dates from women as a girl then a guy!
you get guy attention but you are not interested.
My experience, is that it is extremely hard to find a date with a similar in age GG, as a guy. Very seldom does a Gg answer my dating guy ads. I have also been told i look better than most women , when dressed up, and especially my great legs! Its kind od sad, that as a guy, i am considered fairly nice looking and very tall, but have a terribly hard time finding a GG date, and even more, earning one's trust. Some men are at a huge disadvantage, due to toxic parents, and family, and low confidence and self worth. Women really are valued more than men in today's America. It feels good in a way, being told you look best as a woman, but, deep down, there is great male sorrow.
Hi VS, So what's the problem that should be a good thing.
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I think I'm OK in both modes. Also, I feel it would be perhaps a little pretentious of me to say I look better in one mode as opposed to the other. I'll leave that to someone else, but will probably be waiting a long time for that compliment. However, I love my girl look and just wish that I had discovered this part of me many years ago, as I love my dressed look.
I had shoulder length dark brown hair and natural ringlets just in front of my ears up until I was 21, then the evil barber of the RAF sheared them off. Whole head in 50 secs and it was my best feature.
Rebecca
I agree with Alice Torn. I really don't know which mode I look better in, however, I am socially awkward in guy mode ( I have no "game", no self confidence, not very assertive). I agree that this is a huge disadvantage for a guy. I also have a hard time with GG's even though I don't think that I look that bad as a guy ( full head of hair, weight in proportion to height from daily exercise, smooth blemish free skin and not bad facial features. In girl mode I have been approached by both women and men.
I think in today's society a girl could have low social skills and no "game" and still do well in the dating seen. Don't know for sure, but this might be part of the reason why I like it better as a girl. I have been told by people that have seen me in in both modes that I seem happier in girl mode.
I agree that i'm not sure whether i look better male or en femme.Although i don't really like my body in both modes right now.
However, i am a relatively shy male and i think that can be tough like Danielle said if you are on the shyer side as a guy especially when out and about partying and younger.The emphasis is highly on guys being loud and a bit brash to fit in with the male group mentality (which was never me).
That's easy . . . far better looking as a male. Not that I am saying I anything special in that department either. However, my facial features don't lend themselves well to a feminine look so I will always look like a dude wearing a dress.
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Isha
Isha, You remind a little bit of an actress, who is tall and dark haired, and rather intimidating: I forgot her name, but she played Morticia Adams in "The Adams Family" movie. Oh, it is Angelica Huston.
well....I have awesome clothing and makeup on when I am a girl ... and it was expensive ... so I BETTER look better as a girl.
When I was younger........
I was in the same position and I never was without another female escort.
It was a wonderful time in my life.
Work on your elegance,
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Thanks Sweetie, but I believe Angelica Huston is far better looking than I could ever be. But I will take the compliment with grace.Originally Posted by Alice Torn
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I don't know if I do or not, at least I don't hate my image as a woman.
I'm going to dispute the looking better than GGs thing though.
There are a few girls here who've spent tens of thousands of dollars on their appearance and still get read every now and then.
I always considered my self to be an unattractive male. When I'm dressed, I see a better looking ME. But part of that comes from within...kinda of an awkward male but confident female persona. However, I do not see myself as resembling a GG. This doesn't make me angry...perhaps envious.
I've never been "Out" so the dating question doesn't apply to me. Maybe someday...I'm getting closer and closer to going out en femme.
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^this. I don't understand what the problem is, and you haven't described your difficulty with the situation. If you're getting lots of dates with real women while you're dressed as a girl, then complaining about it, then shame on you. Bragging about how much better you have life than the rest of us is never a nice thing to do. It's a problem every single straight guy on this forum can only dream he had to deal with.
Some causes of crossdressing you've probably never even considered: My TG biography at:http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/...=1#post1490560
There's an addendum at post # 82 on that thread, too. It's about a ten minute read.
Why don't we understand our desire to dress, behave and feel like a girl? Because from childhood, boys are told that the worst possible thing we can be, is a sissy. This feeling is so ingrained into our psyche, that we will suppress any thoughts that connect us to being or wanting to be feminine, even to the point of creating separate personalities to assign those female feelings into.
unless i'm somehow misunderstanding the questions, i have to agree that i don't understand the problem. sounds like you enjoy dressing as a woman and, while doing so, you have attracted interest from both men and women. with respect to the former, you're not attracted to those that have expressed interest so far; fair enough, but you're getting interest and "mr right could be on the horizon. with respect to the latter, your only complaint is that they weren't attracted to you as a man? if you enjoy a female persona, which is inherently apparent from your situation, and you like women, which is inherently apparent from your professed dilemma, how could this be something to be "upset" about??? not sure what i'm missing here.
in my mind, i have a long history of seriously overachieving in landing the women i have enjoyed in my life. every woman i've had a relationship with has been in the 8-10 range and i've never considered myself to be in that range as a man; i've chalked up this over-achievement to my winning personality. personally, i think i'm way hotter dressed up like a woman, but that probably has something to do with the fact that i strive to look as sexy as possible by my standards when i'm dressing up as a girl and have never even thought about trying to do so as a man. if i was dressed up sexy as a girl and had attractive women attracted me, i would consider that a good thing regardless of whether they would be attracted to me as a woman. what exactly do you feel troubled about?
molly
Gee, (before I was married) this used to happen to me and boy was it a pain in my side. I never knew what to think. Did these GGs think I was cute? How come they (seemingly?) didn't think so when I was in boy mode? Did they find me attractive in girl mode only? .. or were they just saying that make up and hair does wonders for everyone? As a single person it sure used to mess with my mind so I totally get where you are coming from.
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I know I look better as a girl, I look better to me anyway. Since I have gone 24/7 so to speak though I have had many women tell how handsome I was as a guy (and where were they when I wanted a date???). Thing is now for some odd reason I look more feminine even before I start makeup. I am going with the skin care helping that
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I love getting attention as a girl, from both sexes! I also try and make sure I'm never drab as either a male or female!
Be whoever you want to be. Screw what others think. It's their loss....
The dating question aside, I have been told by GG's who have seen both sides that I look better as a woman. I won't argue with them.....
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I put a lot of effort into how I look in both genders. Quite a few women have told me I look better dressed as a woman than a man. One woman said when she met the male version that she was a bit disappointed that I was not as tall or elegant as a man (no heels, clothes not quite so sharp). I have also been told I look better in a kilt as a man. I have zero interest in attracting male attention and I never have.
go for the women and tell the guys that you're a lesbian
I have also been told that and I agree with them
I have been told that by a few women, one being an ex wife and I'm not sure how to take that.LOL
I just enjoy how I look, period. There’s nothing to get upset about. Dating? Not applicable. Guy attention? Not intended, not wanted, not warranted, and not why I do THIS…
I agree with Freddy...I just enjoy how I look, period. There’s nothing to get upset about. Dating? Not applicable. Guy attention? Not intended, not wanted, not warranted, and not why I do THIS…
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