I learned a few weeks ago that at another location in my company we have a transitioning (M to F) employee. The company is very progressive and supporting. I've watched and listened from behind the scenes as conversations have unfolded. The guys have all responded like neanderthals, joking and jabing about gayness and how it's becoming more and more pronounced. of course, none want to come out and say they are OK with it. It's like -- unmanly.
An interesting observation is the GG behavior. Initially, there was some unrest with several when they learned they'd have to share the restroom with the transitioning employee. Other than that the GG's have responded with curiosity and a rather supportive stance. I've polled GG's individually and in groups about this. They've expressed how this employee deserves to be respected, allowed to express herself, and so on. Almost all want to draw closer to employee and lend a helping hand.
Ever the budding human behavioralist, I posed the question, "well, what if that were your husband dressing up. Not transitioning mind you, just dressing up. How would you feel about it then?" Wham-o. Responses ranged from the evasive "Oh, he would never do that," to "I don't sleep with girls." The dominant theme was the GG's would befriend one of us, but very few would support the idea of their man in a skirt.
I'm sure the GG's here are a breed apart, but it does appear mainstream folks have clear expectations regarding delineation of gender behaviors. What say yee?