First let's start off.. long time lurker, first time poster, love the show... Now, onto the meat. I am out to 3 people in my life at this time, my exwife, my SO, and a very close freind. This freind is having a birthday gathering themed as bad wedding, prom, bridemaid night. The males have been told, either ugly tux or a dress. No other options. She and my SO have stated here's your shot. The dilema in my mind is that there will be persons there from my industry, as well as, coworkers of my SO. None of whom I am out to. Should I go full tilt, dude in a dress, or guy mode???