Hi everyone,
As you know, I am relatively new here and have only recently come out to my wife and a few select family members and very close friends. My sticking point in my journey has always been my job. I work in the military with a very "special" community and the support in that world would not be good. I have been seeing a gender identity therapist for about a month now and she suggested that perhaps it is time to divest myself of this last stumbling block. I have to admit I was a bit reticent as I love my job and love the environment. In essence, I felt as though I was giving up a part of my male identity. However, applying introspection to the issue, I also came to realize that it is not just about me but my wife as well. I would be lying if I did not say my choice of employment has put a huge strain on my marriage. So, I have at last taken steps to remove myself from my current employment in the military and move back to my former military occupation (psychologist . . . go figure eh?)
Now the confession:
When I first posted on this forum, I alluded to my employment and when everyone assumed I was from the United States, I felt that was a better course of action as my military community is very small in comparison to the same US military community. Paranoia is a big factor of my job and I felt that it would be easier to hide among thousands vice hundreds in case someone wandered on to this sight. For me, compromise comes with serious ramifications to the safety of myself and my family. However, I soon came to realize if someone from work found me on the forum then I would have to ask if "why were you on the forum?" If a stranger found me and tried to use it compromise me . . . Heck I am out to my wife and if that person decides to tell work . . . I'll deal. So compromise is not an issue.
So, I am not American but Canadian.
I will firstly apologize to all you great gals south of us who may have thought I was American, this was not done with malice but with an effort hide a portion of my identity among the masses. I will now apologize to all my Canadian sisters for not coming clean. It is not because I am ashamed of being Canadian, it is because I needed to protect a bit of my identity.
The Canadian military may be accepting of TG/TS gals . . . it is against regulations/policy to discriminate, harass or harm. However, policy is policy, beliefs, convictions and hate are a different thing. I am still not out to a vast majority of folks but I imagine it will happen slowly. My new Commanding Officer knows and a few close work colleagues. Will I go to work "en femme" not likely as I only have three years left until I retire and besides, as much as love being Isha, I love being me "en male" as well. This new revelation just provides me with breathing room to continue to explore.
So that is my confession. Once again, very sorry to have mislead you all but I wanted to start fresh from this point forward. The stories and anecdotes I have shared to date are all true accounts, I just did not say they happened in Canada vice the United States.
Finally, should the moderators believe my slight indiscretion is ban worthy, I understand and hold no ill feelings. Should that occur, I want to thank you all for you great advice and warm support. I will miss you all dearly as you have provided me with great clarity and new found strength to accept who I am. If I am allowed to remain, I look forward to sharing more about the real Isha as I continue my journey
HUGS to you all.
Isha