Feminine nature is a combination of three distinct character traits that we
normally see in women. Since we are so good at juggling roles in a day, most
women will have no issues switching between being womanly, ladylike and girly.
Read on to know how and when to be each of these.
Womanly
The character traits of a woman are compassion, patience, being a good
listener and being unconditional about giving love. The womanly qualities should
come out when in the company of close family, younger siblings and cousins,
children of friends, and also with your spouse. Here’s how to be
womanly:
- When in the company of youngsters, without compromising on your seniority, listen to the issues they face. Never, under any circumstance, try to be
patronizing – only men pass judgments without thinking about anybody else’s
feelings! Make the youngsters feel that they can trust you with their personal
feelings. If the need arises, offer a shoulder to cry on. - When in the company of your own family, help your mother in whatever she does, be gentle and caring with your younger siblings and respectful towards the
older ones. Do little things for both your parents – bring them gifts when you
come over and show that, after all, “… a daughter is a daughter till the end of
life.” - When in the company of your in-laws, be considerate about the various members – ask after their health and offer to help them in case they need it.
Treat your in-laws as your own family members and show patience with them. If
they are critical of you, show control and consideration, while at the same
time, maintain your own individuality. Never fight with your mother-in-law over
your husband – in fact never fight with any woman for a man! - When in the company of children, be genuinely affectionate and try to keep pace with their imagination. If a child is crying and needs attention,
immediately entertain him/her. If you find two children fighting, try to solve
the fight in a completely impartial way and make sure they do not fight again.
Try not to shout at either of them, in any circumstance.
Ladylike
A lady possesses grace, poise, elegance, control, intellect and
individuality. It is best to be ladylike in the company of unrelated men and
women, or the kind who may scrutinize you too much. Here’s how to be
ladylike:
- When in the company of unrelated men and women, say at a social gathering or party; sit in just the right posture – the kind that reveals comfort, poise and
confidence. - Make eye contact with everyone and be genuinely polite with all of them. Do not raise your voice too high, show too much emotion; maintain control and grace
under all circumstances. - Make sure your attire suits the occasion – it should be flattering, but not too tight; comfortable but not too baggy.
- When being talked to, make sure you listen intently and do not cut anybody short. This is a quality that is associated with a good debater – women often
end up cutting short their opponents in a debate, which is seen as unsporting
and unladylike. When the person has finished speaking, then begin to say. - Do not resort to the use of abusive language under any circumstances – only sailors use such language!
- Educate yourself and be independent. It is the new addition to feminine behavior that is slowly gaining acceptance; as far as possible, try to manage
without a man – be it for taking decisions about your life or doing stuff around
the house and outside. - Have the reins of your life in your own hands, even as you take the opinions of the various people who matter to you. Do not, under any circumstances, hand
over the remote control of your life to anyone else, not even your parents,
least of all to your spouse or in-laws. - Even if you are hurt by the comment a man makes, smile or laugh off the comment. Men are so insecure they may eventually apologize!
Girlish
Girlish or girly behavior is associated with the qualities of playfulness,
loving yourself for what you are, enjoying every moment of being a woman and
taking care of your body. One can be girlish in the company of close friends,
especially female friends, when with oneself and when alone with the
spouse.
- When with your girlfriends, have a sense of humour – laugh at yourself and take life as less seriously as possible. There are too many problems to worry
about – these are a few moments in which you can enjoy being yourself. - Love your body and take care of it. Exercise regularly, not to be thin, but to be fit. Enjoy your favourite foods, but in control and take care of your skin
and hair – they are those that make you truly beautiful and also reveal the good
health or ill health. - Listen to music when all alone and, if possible sway or dance to it, just as a way of celebrating your personhood and feminity. Feel completely comfortable
with your body and learn to love it just the way it is. Remember, the topmost
models are the biggest victims of body image disorders and cannot love their
bodies the way you can. Thank your luck for it. - When alone with your spouse, be playful and flirtatious. Remind him of the times you were dating. This way, you will find that the love you are giving is coming back to you manifold and will only help you love yourself
more.