I promise this isn't an antagonistic post!
I'm curious about public CD for those who still identify as men. (No TS answers thanks as that's a very different situation). Anyway, I'm sure this question has been asked countless times and I sort of understand the need for human interaction. (Sort of - most people annoy me, lol.) But so much is made here of 'blending' and 'passing' and basically having no one look at you. Best case you go about your day completely invisible.
So what's the point?
Why go out at all? There seems little human interaction involved and when there is it seems to involve those already in the know. People are actually proud here when they're not noticed. I get avoiding the whole 'wow, there goes a man dressed as a women' but realistically that's pretty much what you are. Men just have those tell tale signs that tip people off regardless of how they present. Doesn't mean you don't look good - but we usually know. But surely, avoiding all human contact is no different than hiding at home?
So why not go out loud and proud and get noticed for what you are? And if you really can't, why not just stay home and avoid all this stress? What is everyone getting out of this? I have become quite fond of many here (yes, true) and when I read of these difficult outings the wife/mother in me wants to say 'please, don't torture yourselves and stay home already.'
All answers appreciated. This journey will never be complete without this puzzling question being removed from my busy annoying brain. My H doesn't go public but he gets why a person would yet can't seem to explain it to me. Seems this is part of the secret 'CD club' that us wives might never understand
M x
