Well Missus, you have really made me think - as have all of you who have replied to the OP. If I am going out en femme, I don't dress to be noticed. I try to dress to be elegant, but not to fade into the background. As a female (even a pretend one) I like to be noticed when I'm looking and feeling good. Any compliments will be gratefully received.
Sometimes I "pass", sometimes I do not. Neither really matters to me. What I know is that when I do go out en femme, I feel comfortable, natural, I AM Amanda. I delight in being able to interact with women without the almost inevitable gender tension that happens in many male/female interactions.
Now see what you have done Missus? I'm going to have to think about this a bit more. I'd like to add that I think of you as a great asset to this forum. Stay with us!