Sorry for the long winded and rambling post.
I have thought about this for a long time, and I have regretted not doing it sooner. I felt like I have robbed myself of happiness for such a long time. I have weighed out the pros and cons of doing hrt. My wife is very supportive, but she has mentioned before certain lines she would not want me to cross. I know she does not want me to have full srs. I am fine with that as I don't have a problem with what I have down there. She has said she would be worried about loosing family and people thinking she was a lesbian. Both are valid concerns, I do worry about losing two of my children whom live with their mother out of state. I know it will take time for effects or hrt to be visible and I don't know if it would be feasible to think I can pull off being both sexes. I know in the past when we have talked about things that she is not comfortable with she kind of shuts down and tells me to do what ever I want. Now I have always hated that answer going way back to when my mom would tell me that. I just need to find a common ground that everyone can be happy with. Shes fine and very accepting of my crossdressing, I just fear that this may be too much for her to handle. I have also mentioned maybe going to support groups but she did not seem to interested plus she works 55+ hours a week. This is such a great and supportive community I am sure that there will be tons of helpful information from you girls on how to handle this situation.