I just wanted to follow up a bit more about the jenellerose article referenced in a previous thread. The article was entitled, "Conservative men in conservative dresses". I didn't want to hijack that thread entirely so thought I'd start my own. This is the article that was cited, and it was a very enjoyable read for me.
http://jenellerose.com/htmlpostings/...vative_men.htm
I just had to say more about this. I know it doesn't speak for everyone. This forum has a wide variety of CD'ers and many different perspectives. But as for me, the description contained here suits me almost perfectly. I have pondered many times the universal question that we face which is, "Why do I have this unexplainable, and uncontrollable, urge to dress up in women's clothes?" It's not that I lose sleep over this question, however. I just go with the flow and enjoy the experience whenever I can.
But one small section, in particular, in this article caused me to smile and nod in recognition as I saw myself expressed very well.
"Cross-dressing is an attempt to resolve an internal conflict, and it's not about fabric. If we had clothing for men and women that was identical in every way except men wore shirts with four buttons and women had shirts with five, cross-dressers would want more than anything to have the shirt with five. We don't know why."
It's not the fabric, or the colors, or the cut, or the style of the clothes necessarily. For example, I have no interest in wearing a kilt because that's a "skirt" made for a man. I walk around the house in a bathrobe and don't for a second get the sensation that I'm wearing a dress. I have viewed their web site with amusement but have no interest in buying or wearing "manties". Nor do I get any thrill out of wearing men's nylon bikini briefs in baby blue, even without a fly. It's just not the same. . .
All these things are similar in style and cut to women's things, but they don't do anything for me. Any time that I have gone out of the house dressed in recent years has had to be dressed completely in women's clothes from head to toe. There was a time in my early years when it was fun to wear panties and a bra under my everyday clothes, or even pantyhose a time or two. But that has lost its appeal, too. If I'm going anywhere en femme, it has to be completely head to toe. Not that I can pass, at anything less than about 50 yards, :grin: but just because that's the way that is most satisfying to me.
Time spent at this site, and a couple of other CD forums prior to this, has been a great source of reassurance and reinforcement that I'm not alone. I'm not amazed by it anymore, but I am always pleased to read some post that describes something that I have felt or experienced. Something that causes me to say, "That's me, too." Or, "I understand that completely!"
And that's what this article did for me. I am still smiling at the thought that someone else fully understands that I have to wear the 5 button shirt. :wink:
And actually I know that virtually everyone reading this post understands that desire very well. I'd love to hear other's thoughts on this. Thanks!!!
Nanci