OMG-Just outed myself at work

[Lorileah]

Now if you can break him of peeping in bathroom doors...

[sandra-leigh]

b.) This is why I do not understand underdressing at work. There are so many things that can go wrong. In this world your professional reputation is important. I would think it silly to jeopardize professional integrity that by bending over and have your lacy thong sticking out, etc etc.

Addressing this theme, which several have expressed:

My history is a bit unusual in that I did not know I was a cross-dresser until I had a sudden revelation of that. Making a distinction here between momentarily putting on panties as a sort of sex toy (an impulse that to me was like buying a porn magazine, an activity rather than an identity), versus wanting to actually wear the clothes.

Once I did have the revelation, then Yes, there was a brief time during which I underdressed for reasons partly sexual, partly to feel that I was "getting away with it" in public, partly just to be cross-dressed. But it was no more than two months (at most) between the time where I started wearing panties in public sometimes, and the time where I needed to wear panties, that male underwear felt wrong, inappropriate, upsetting, a lie, something to be endured.

This is the "Male to Female Crossdressing" section, so I will emphasize that this is not how it is for all MTF cross-dressers. For some of us, though, it stops being about "having fun" wearing panties at work, and the risk and possible consequences of "getting caught" get to weigh less than the certainty of daily problems in not wearing panties. Such people might be more towards the TG or TS side (I know I am), but that just tells us that each person needs to assess for themselves, rather than us giving a blanket opinion that it should not be done.

[MarinaKirax]

Here is your solution:

YOu tell him that you just had a minor injection procedure on some varicose veins, and your doctor prescribed you some support stockings that you had to wear for three days post-procedure. Curiously, men's full-leg suport stockings are always thigh highs, with a garter belt to hold them up. Seems most men dont WANT to wear pantyhose (ed. - What's up with that???!), so all full leg mens compression garments are garter belt and look like stockings. The only difference is they all have an open toe. Check them out on line, look up Sigvaris garter mens thigh high. Problem solved. MK

[Tearose48]

I would say nothing unless your coworker says something to you or to someone else first.

I agree with this. He may assume that you lost a bet, and never say a word.

[Michelle789]

I find it very weird that he's walking past your office smiling. Could he be an under dresser, and is smiling at you because he's now met another one, or at least that's what he thinks? Could he be gay, and think you're gay? Or, maybe he's just an ***hole.
Don't say anything, and wait to see how things unfold. He may try to catch you off guard and try to get an on the spot confession from you. If he says anything, pretend you didn't listen and that you were focused on something else. This buys you more time to think about what he said or asked. That wouldn't be a lie, because we all can get like that where we're just completely focused on something else we don't pay attention to what others are saying...this would work unless you're known to never be zoned out. Once you've thought things through if he asks again you may be better prepared.
If he does confess that he underdresses, be careful not to confess back, because he could be baiting you. On the other hand, if he uses that kind of bait it's a double-edged sword that could backfire against him.

[Amy R Lynn]

This is why I always use the closed bathroom stalls, not the urinals when I under dress. I don't want to flash some lace and have this happen. I like Julie's advice though. It might be a good idea to just talk to the fella like Julie said. It may way lay some of your fears. Who knows..... maybe he liked what he saw.

[Nicole Erin]

Worst case scenario is in the lunchroom, he will walk in with a karaoke machine and be singing, "I may not want to admit it, I am just a fool for your stockings I believe..."

Or you can tell him that stockings make you feel pretty. End of conversation.

WHAAA HAHAHAHAH! Yeah, THAT will cause the subject to be forgotten that instant.
"They make me feel pretty!"
"Oh alright. Hey so what about those reports the boss needed done, did you...."

[ginafaye]

almost outted myself the other day . the wife and i were clowning around with the camera taking a few photos,on my smartphone ..we deleted them fairly quickly but the next day they had sync to my facebook acc..panic city, but they were in the private folder and was able to delete them.. no more photos with the phone...stand alone camera for us now

[TightsInHiding]

I am going to have to check my photo sharing settings now I'm scared

[Diversity]

I have underdressed for many years and never had anything like this happen.
If someone says anything, remember what Bill Clinton taught us- just keep telling them it didn't happen.

Good comment!
Di

[jessicamichelle]

Veronica said in the front page that the issue is all good. Her smiling friend is a fellow dresser. No worries all.

[jjjjohanne]

Don't lie. People will try to catch you in a lie. Own it. Or at the most, if it ever comes up in the office say, "That's a little personal, don't you think?" He will very likely tell other people and they will not talk to you about it. A jerk might bring it up, but most people will not. They won't know if it is the only time or a regular thing. They will possibly look for impressions on your clothes that reveal that you are wearing something underneath. In the end, you'll be that guy who wore that stuff that time. They will judge you by the quality of your character and the quality of your work. If you were to wear a skirt to work one day and then never do it again, it would probably play out the same way (unless you work for a religious or political organization).

Now, if you dress feminine for Halloween, that might change everything. You might open the door for questions and even more so for assumptions. People will not give you the benefit of the doubt if you are caught wearing something once and then dress for Halloween. (If you have dressed for Halloween in the past, you are busted.)

Even if someone from work caught you crossdressing at Victoria's secret, if you never openly bring it up in the office, you will be treated normally and will be judged on your quality. ...unless there is a real jerk there... Then you will have to address it somewhat openly and then it will go away. In the end, crossdressing is not all that big of a deal. We just *think* it is.

[Sarasometimes]

The lost a bet only works if it can be confirmed by a Bettor (Will your wife vouch for you?). I would go with the deny with so do you always try to peek into the men's room stalls approach if the subject comes up. Don't open the can of worms for him.
I agree with the "Why I don't under-dress at work way of thinking". Waring a garter belt and stocking to work is a pretty brazen form of under-dressing in IMHO. Good Luck!

[Ressie]

Bill Clinton was impeached. Glad to hear the coworker is also a CD. I was thinking that he wanted to blackmail you into a blowjob. Oh, there's that Clinton again!