This question is for the autogynephiliacs, crossdreamers, "male lesbians', and others who are attracted to women, but also wish/fantasize about being one. i thought it might offend the TS ladies, so i put it here even though i know it won't apply to everyone.
Is the "type" of woman that you're most attracted to also the type that you feel most jealous of/imagine yourself being?
The reason i ask is that i thought it would seem intuitive for the two women to be the same- why wouldn't you want to be the type of woman you're most attracted to? It would make sense that if you're internalizing/projecting your desires (depending on how you look at it), the desires would be the same in both cases.
However, in my case, at least, it's not. The woman i want to be, that i'm jealous of, is extremely petite; 5'0", 90#. Blonde or pastel-dyed hair. Fresh-faced. In her early 20's. Dressed very "girly".
The women that i'm most attracted to are softer, heavier, taller, older; even their hair is a different color- black, red, or dyed to a jewel tone. They're made up and dressed Gothic. In short, they wouldn't even seem to occupy the same circles as the girl i long to be.
i'm just wondering if this disconnect is shared with any of my "sisters", or if i'm simply an oddity among an already rare subculture.
Does your "dream girl" match your "dream self"?