It started out as a sexual thing for me as well.
Now it isn't. I do it for relaxation more than anything. The thrill is gone...and I couldn't be happier!
It started out as a sexual thing for me as well.
Now it isn't. I do it for relaxation more than anything. The thrill is gone...and I couldn't be happier!
My interest in CDressing started before any thoughts of sexual matters but as life moves on so does the interest in sex. So I have been through the years when almost anything could supply a sexual impetus to the more mature years that slow things down a bit.
Dressing in female attire has always been to get the feel and look of the much wider variety of fabrics and designs available to women - mostly non-sexual but with the occasional slip-up and subsequent "abuse" of silky or lace underthings.
Now, at the age of 76, I can dress as a woman for several hours a day with the intent of acting the part in my walk and mannerisms. I'm pleased to report that the occasional slip-up still happens and sexual excitement takes over but much less than in earlier times. With a bit of luck sexual feelings for lingerie will never desert me.
Love from New Zealand
Not about sex for me, though it can be a turn on at times. I think there are several dimensions of need-to dressing for me. First, there is comfort it brings. During times of great stress I want to wear something fun and flirty. What that is can depend on what in my wardrobe speaks to me at the moment. Next, and I don't profess to know why, but the mood hits and I just want to dress. Sometimes I want to wear a dress or gown, sometimes leggings and tunic, sometimes capri and a cute blouse. I'm completely nuts for cute shoes of any kind and I love rattle bracelets. Lastly, I sometimes want to curl up in a nightie and sweater, throw a blanket on me, and read a good book simply because it feels good. Years ago I learned to be OK with CD-ing and not fret why I do what I do. My wife loves and supports me, too. I'm not hurting anyone and I'm at peace with myself.
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It's both a form of relaxation and sexual for me. I always start off dressing to feel relaxed, but more than 50% ends in sexual feelings.
Reine is so right I started off when I was about 4 years old feeling of the bras and panties in the store then one day at age 7 after seeing my sister in her bra I started wearing her bra till I was caught read some of my other posts but yes in my teens and intill about 12 years ago some times it was a sexual thing Reine I so enjoy reading your posts as they always hit close to home and make me stop and think
i dress strictly for sexual arousal. i have NO desire to leave the house or share my dressing with anyone else. what i do, i do for myself and don't "require" anyone else's "approval". i'm very happy with myself, so i don't feel the urge of going out and having anyone bash me for something that they have NO "interest" in. hope that makes sense.
Lilith, I'm just like your BF. Afraid I can't shed too much light as to why though. I've always called it a kink, my GF doesn't feel I should. I have to kind of disagree with the comments people have made about linking it to sexual development. I didn't start dressing until I was 30. When I started it was very much a sexual thing and is still a strong element. I don't need to dress to become aroused, but it's often very nice too. But then there are getting to be more days that I just enjoy doing it for itself and nothing more. I guess my perspective is, it's an escape. I don't drink so I've always viewed it as my beer. I get stressed out about an upcoming hard work day, it relaxes me to throw on a wig and skirt while I'm having breakfast in the morning. Sometimes the mind just needs to be somewhere else.
CDing is just wearing clothing. Nobody knows why people do it, but there is nothing to be ashamed of and it doesn't mean the person wants to change sex or that it is a sexual thing. Usually, a CDer wants their life to remain as it is with the exception of being free to CD sometimes. Some people want to live full time as the other gender, but that's more in the TS direction. I think most of the negative issues and difficulty comes from ignorance and misunderstanding...once you get past all the negative stereotypes, learning to have self respect, it really is just clothing and it can be enjoyable to do...sure beats a lot of other ways to have fun and it is a great learning experience.
Chickie
For me, transforming to Tina is always sensual...not sexual. The whole arsenal of clothing and products that are usually targetted at "women" are a completely different "feel" from those same products for men, hence my sensual statement.
The other piece is that for heterosexual crossdressers, we are interested in the female form and all that goes with it. We've been interested in women forever, so to be able to experience that "from the inside" has to be a sensual experience. Put on top of that moving beyond the clothing and makeup to body movement, deportment, voice, and language use, and we become immersed in a cultural change linked to femininity. That's some pretty heady stuff, and the senses just go off the chart. It's little wonder that those who experienced adolescent days with all this input linked the femininine experience with a sexual response. The sexual may taper off, but the sensual will likely not.
As background, I'm bigendered, so both of my genders are here to stay
When I dress, I feel so many emotions. Sexual, Feminine and WANT. Want to be a woman. Especially if I put in breasts and do makeup and hair which is almost never because I have zero talent and creativeness to get it even remotely right.
But when I put on a bra with breasts and matching panties, I feel like a lady. Not sure why, but then the feminine in me becomes sexually charged and it just goes from their...
Its very much the same for me when I am dressed Ginger. If you enjoy it, why not?
I wish I could get up the courage to go out dressed up. I would still need to do so many things, ie: proper wig professional makeup, I need to breast forms and so much more.
You could go to Wildside in Toronto, they could set you up Ginger.
When I was younger it was more sexual, but now it is a way for me to relax and get comfortable.
What is Wildside, do you have a website? I wish I lived in Toronto again, also I don't have a car.
I'm sure you could google wildside, sorry, I dont remember the actual web address. I was there a couple of years ago, good times.
You wouldnt need a car. They are close enough to everything. I had a car there but never needed to use it, just cost $ to park it.
Lilith, crossdressers not only dress for different reasons, their feelings about dressing and the activities they'll engage in while dressed may change over time.
I myself started out as a strictly fetish dresser, wearing nightgowns, but when I started trying on actual dresses, I felt differently...not so much "aroused" as "happy" and "contented." That led to me developing a full femme presentation...and, once I did, I began to want to leave home. Now I'm a group organizer for a crossdresser meetup group and love hanging out with my friends at a local piano bar, both after meetings and at other times. And, if you'd told me 18 months ago that I'd have managed all that, I would have wondered what you'd been smoking recently!
Don't be afraid if your boyfriend's tastes change. Just keep the lines of communication open and make sure you're comfortable with what he's doing. You may even find it nice to join your "girlfriend" on a trip out to the shopping center or the salon!
- Amy
Amy Gale Ruth Bowersox (nee Tapie) - "Be who you are, and be it in style!"
Member, Board of Trustees, Gender Identity Center of Colorado
aka Amelia Storm - Ms. Majestic Hearts of All Colorado 2018-2019, Miss Majestic Hearts of All Colorado 2015-2016
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