There's nothing wrong with a genderqueer presentation, mink. (That's displaying some of both gender's characteristics.) However, you are right, there are some in the TG community who are almost as conformist to binary gender as the cisgendered folks.
The world is barely able to tolerate transgender where one presents as totally the opposite gender of their birth. genderqueer is kind of hard on the world - it pushes too many buttons at the same time I think, and people just overload.
Don't take it personally - you are ahead of the curve, that's all.