Besides that you love them, what do you wish your SO knew and understood about you crossdressing?
Just one thing.
I wish I could get her to understand how comfortable I am when I'm dressed. That may sound a bit strange but in spite of everything we have gone through over my cding she just doesn't really understand that there is just something comforting to me about being dressed.
"It takes all kinds of kinds" Miranda Lambert
Now some point a finger and let ignorance linger
If they'd look in the mirror they'd find.
That ever since the beginning to keep the world spinning
It takes all kinds of kinds.
I need shoes!
Drumming, My other hobby
It's not a bad thing.
I've waited so long for this time. Makeup is so frustrating. Shaking hands and I look so old. This was a mistake.
My new maid's outfit is cute. Sure fits tight.
And then I step into the bedroom and in the mirror, I see a beautiful woman looking back at me.
Smile, Honey! You look fabulous!
I am lucky enough to have an amazing girlfriend that not only accepts my CDing, but encourages it on occasion (you're getting all negative, I wanna see Jessica soon. ) ...that being said, I DO occasionally wish she could see it from my pov, just once. ...trust me, ladies and. ...well... ladies, I'm not looking a gift horse in the mouth... I more than appreciate her and everything she does for me (both of me. Lol), but I'm not sure she really "gets it" sometimes. ...having to hide something about yourself for nearly 30 years, and suddenly having it known isn't easy either. I know she's super cool, but I don't think she quite gets why I still sweat like an NFL linebacker when it's 60 degrees and I dress around her. It's panic. Lol
Sarah I so agree with that, I to am very comfortable when dressed. I mean I like to be pretty but that is secondary to feeling comfy.
that there was nothing that she could be at blame for about me having these desires, it was there all along !!
....Mykell
i dressed like a girl and i liked it! crossdressing...theirs an app for that
Sarah said something and not realizing it, may be on to something that a SO would like to understand and so would I! Feminine clothes are usually more comfortable
than male clothes due to the lightness, the sheerness and the fit (and more I missed). But Sarah in the same vein indicated that, synonymously, they are "comforting"! I agree with both descriptions but why are they also comforting? Explain that and we have opened a can of, maybe, worms.???
Julie
I would like my wife to understand that my male side and female side make up the whole person that she originally fell in love with. I believe my female expression makes me a much more understanding and compassionate person. And besides without it how could I ever understand the agony over a panty hose run or broken nail.
That I am the same person she loves no matter what type of clothing I am wearing.
Gosh, she pretty much knows what I know. I'm trying to think of anything I haven't shared or quite understood...I'll get back to ya!
Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.
Eleanor Roosevelt
I want her to understand how wonderfully happy it makes me feel.
That there's no such thing as "too many shoes."
And for the record, I buy my wife a new pair every time Misty gets a pair.
Edith, I am going to take what you said and adapt it to my circumstances..... I want her to understand how wonderfully happy it makes me feel when I am dressed like this and with her.
I'm move of an Missouri farm wife type, my wardrobe consists mainly of jeans, tops and jackets. And nightgowns. Did I say nightgowns?
I enjoyed reading the responses.
One thing..... that not telling isn't the same as lying.......
That it was a part of me long before I met her and that it is not a reflection on her worth as a woman, mother, husband or anything else. It's simply as inherent a part of me as loving music or computers.
"You are not an accident, nor are you malfunctioning. You are performing EXACTLY as coded." For many "Man in a Dress" is the worst atrocity commit-able; for me it's just reality. Click to Learn About Me. Click to Complain About Me! There is a fine line between brutal honesty and honest brutality. It is rarely in the same place for the sender and the receiver.
That I am the same person, regardless of what I am wearing.
That it's part of me, just like all the other parts she loves.
Although she is the one who has to deal with it, it has nothing to do with her.
If it was easy, everyone would be doing it.
Maybe just that sometimes I do still need to buy more clothes!
(She understands pretty much everything she needs to understand. She and I are perfectly comfortable around each other as two women.)
- Amy
Amy Gale Ruth Bowersox (nee Tapie) - "Be who you are, and be it in style!"
Member, Board of Trustees, Gender Identity Center of Colorado
aka Amelia Storm - Ms. Majestic Hearts of All Colorado 2018-2019, Miss Majestic Hearts of All Colorado 2015-2016
.... your closet space is up for grabs if you don't use it.
That it relaxes me when I'm stressed.
To love me, is to love both side of me.
Hugs,
Teddie
I would like her to understand that while I may have dreamed about, had fantasies about, and imagined myself as being a total woman -- I really really really don't want to, nor do I intend to, transition. I love the freedom of CDing.
Rhonda
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Be all the woman that you can be!
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. . . and now, On With The Show!