Last weekend my best friend got engaged.
And I'm going to be her maid of honor. On the way back from gaming we had a conversation concerning all that entailed, from the rehearsal dinner to the bachelorette party, and what colors she's going to put me in, and the logistics of changing in the bridal suite.
One issue that came up is her stepdad. He is very, very conservative. And on top of that he's VERY conservative. We've not layed eyes on each other very much at all, but he's seen pictures and heard about me. And he does NOT approve of me. His ideal society he says is the 1950's, he's literally said that aside from the racism everything else was perfect.
Personally, It would make me happy to make HER happy, and it is not my role to make any sort of statement or a point, and I would be perfectly willing to show up in boy mode if she wanted me to. I want her day to be perfect.
But she said she wanted me there as Violet to be her maid of honor. "Some people will that will be there will have seen you as a male before and know, others I don't think will. But anyway it doesn't matter if they have a problem they can bite me." She said she realizes that her stepdad is going to be really bothered by it but it's her decision. Then when I got out of the car she hugged me and said "Thank you for accepting."
I try to avoid having emotions whenever possible, but I'm as close to crying now as I've ever been.