Just discovered my 11 yr old googling words like : sissy boy, bras for boys,bondage, naked girls in a box, tutus , women pooping, naked 10 year old girls, and other terms I have never heard of. He found female suits you can put on to anatomically look female. I looked in his room and under the covers was my dress, and bathing suits. My 9 year old told me his older brother showed him once after dressing up .
He has aspergers, and Tourette's like tics from time to time. I always worried about bullies and now... I haven't talked to him yet about the websites, he knows my clothes are gone from his bed. He's super sensitive, doesn't like to attract negative attention, mainstreamed in middle school , straight A's. I'm worried about the extreme violent images he saw on the painful bondage sites.
My question to you all is what is the most supportive thing we can do and say when we talk to him? What rules do we set, do we get him his own clothes now, do we ask him to dress in private? Any advice or thoughts on what I found online as well will be greatly appreciated, my husband says we only have 1 shot to get it right and we don't want to freak him out or make him feel bad.