She was gorgeous and friendly. Talked about her hair style and I was also compelled to compliment her eye makeup. I told her it must have taken her a while to apply it, and she said it took no time at all.
So she has it down from doing it often. Anyway, she appreciated my compliments and thanked me for noticing. I told her I notice things like that for some reason.
"You're the only one to see the changes you take yourself through", Stevie Wonder
Hi Ressie
I assume you mean a girl from the transgendered community ?
Actually no Shelly. But if she only know that I was wearing makeup earlier. Not much of a point to the story I know.
"You're the only one to see the changes you take yourself through", Stevie Wonder
I end up letting them know that I know too much about women hair and makeup.
I think there's always a risk in "outing" yourself (even without even indirectly doing it) when talking to women about things like that, but I think the outing risk isn't as great as it once was because I feel like more straight/non-CD guys are noticing that part of what women do nowadays.
I'm a guy who likes girls, I just like a little more about them than the average guy.
I have always noticed GG and their make or their nails. I told a woman the other day at the grocery that she had some of the most gorgeous lips I have ever saw and I loved her smile. I then said your lipstick matches your nail polish and that I like to see women do that. She told me that I made her day and that she was going to be smiling the rest of the day. Us older farts can get away with stuff like that without raising an eyebrow.
Ha! I guess I qualify as an old fart these days, though I don't feel it! I often talk to women about clothing choices, but not make up. Sometimes I'll say I'm asking for my GF, (hell, sometimes I am!) sometimes I just ask as an interest of my own. Occasionally get a slightly cool reception, but mostly they are quite happy to talk about it, and like the attention.
"Normal is what you get when you average out the weirdness that everybody has." Quote from my SO
Normal is a setting on a washing machine, or another word for average.
The fact that I wear a skirt as a male should not be taken as a comment on what you do, or do not wear, or how you wear it.
I was in K-mart buying false eyelashes about two months ago. Male mode. Hard to miss me when they put the eyelashes at the end of the aisle facing out into the corner where the two main arteries running through the store meet. A lady stands behind me and says that she'd love to use them but had never tried. She was concerned that they might be too big. I assured her that a) she could trim them but to do so from the larger end and b) that if she had difficulty putting on an entire lash that she could cut them into thirds and put them on one third at a time. She thanked me and then asked "are you an artist or something?" I said, "Nah, I'm just a guy who knows more about false eyelashes than most."
Fast forward three weeks. The day I left for my Pinkfest adventure I went to the salon early in male mode to get my nails done. CND Shellac Cake Pop. I wanted to be sure I wouldn't have to worry about my nails for the duration of Pinkfest. Bear in mind that I was travelling in male mode. I wasn't yet ready to make the trip from my home town to Chicago by train en femme and since I was taking the bus from my home to the trains station, I really wasn't ready to walk out of my house and down the street carrying two large suitcases, my purse, and my computer bag while trying not to look like a neanderthal with breasts.
Anyway, so I'm traveling to Chicago in male mode but sporting a nice pink manicure on obviously grown out nails. I sat alone for most of the trip but was joined by a lady in, oh, I'd guess her 60s when we got to Bloomington. She sat and read while I continued writing some code for a class I was just finishing. About 30 minutes outside of Chicago I put the laptop away. I had been noticing the diverse group of people who had been slowly filling the train as we made each stop. I turned to her and asked how often she rode the train and whether this looked like the usual crop of travelers.
I also told her it was my very first travel by train (other than short commuter stuff). We chatted a few moments and then she said "I've been admiring your manicure. I don't often see such nice nails on a man." I said "Oh, yes, I just had them done this morning. They are blah blah blah...." She asked if I do this often. I paused, let the wheels turn just a moment and then said, "No, I don't get the chance often. I'm just a crossdresser going on a week-long vacation and enjoying the fact that I get to have a nice manicure for more than just a few hours". She said "Oh, that's interesting. I was wondering if you were doing it in honor of Breast Cancer Awareness month. I'm a survivor and I wanted to thank you." I had to tell her no, but that the very thought had occurred to me earlier in the day when I was sitting on the bus on the way to the train station. But, I assured her, my son's entire High School varsity football team was wearing pink socks, gloves, and sweatbands for at least two games that month for that very reason. I congratulated her and then she asked me a little bit about where I was going in Chicago and what I'd be doing. She also had some questions about crossdressing in general. Dancing? No, two left feet. She then told me that she was a pastor at a church in Chicago and they prided themselves on their diversity and invited me to attend. Then, when we got to the train station she helped me find the taxi stand and, when I lamented that the driver probably wasn't going to like picking up a three-block fare, she said not to worry... she was getting a taxi too, she'd ask her cabbie to drop me off at my hotel, and she'd pay for the taxi (since she was going to use one anyway) and cover the additional passenger fare as my welcome to Chicago.
Whew! The point being that this was my first conversation with a total stranger when I was sporting just enough feminine trappings to get noticed... and it was nothing but a pleasant experience.
I have noticed that the best thing to do to any SO or female you interact with about fashion is to compliment them on something first and they then get much more friendly and open. I had a SO the other day that was helping me pick out a pink lip gloss and I thanked her and told her I loved her Smokey eyes and I said I wish I could do that She said it took her a long time to learn and I said well it was worth it they are beautiful . Of course it has to be an honest complement and something that they feel really good about.
In our flat there are six guys and six gals of all ages. We talk on all subjects from league rugby to lingerie. Most of us are teachers and therefore have a wide general knowledge about things others might question. There was a post on the forum just recently, which I discussed with on e of my flatmates, because she has specialist knowledge in the area it touched upon.
I'd call it hiding in plain sight.
I have had women comment on my nails having matching colors (toes and fingers).
None had a problem with a guy wearing bright colors on their nails.Had one lady ask me what brand and the color number or name.
I told her and she said well I have to get some its a beautiful color.
I was in guy mode that day BTW.
It's all cool until you guys are the boyfriend or husband. Lol
I am always complimenting girls on their attractiveness, I just want to get them in front of a camera.
I do get some astonishing responses amongst the casual interactions I have.
Work on your elegance,
and beauty will follow.
I do not see the problem complimenting women at all times. The problem is Boyfriends and husband do not do this!
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