Is dressing sexual or not for you?

[randi_789]

[SIZE="3"]Since I discovered the internet ten years ago and found that I was not alone in my desires, I also have found, from viewing many personal page profiles, that crossdressers seem to be separated into three main categories.

There are those that dress because they have an inner woman in them and love the feel of women's clothes. They may or may not have the desire to someday become a woman. And they really have no interest in men.

Then there are those who dress because it feels sexy and they always have to have a sexual experience when they dress, ending in an orgasm, and sometimes guilt. This can be alone or with someone else. And that someone else may sometimes be a man because they do have the desire to be with one.

And the last group would be a combination of the two, which is where I fall. I dress because i love how it feels, but also because of the sexuality revolving around it. And when dressed I do fantasize about men, and have even followed through on it.

Where are you in this, or have I got it all wrong? I think I am looking for validation in some sort of way. [/SIZE]

[Lissa Stevens]

When I was younger and more confused about everything dressing and sex were mixed. Since my 20's things changed. Dressing was just a part of me as much as music or reading or any other normal activity. I don't know if the studies are right but most seem to say that as far as crossdressers go my experiences are typical.
I just feel like wearing women's clothes is the right thing for me to be doing. I still have some sexual thoughts while dressed but most center on being a woman and having sex as a woman not as a man.

[Nikki Dee]

Can't see how you possibly can be who/what we are and NOT have a sexual element involved...to some degree or bias...I've always thought..despite the denials I read...that there can't be a Tgirl out there that at some time hasn't fantasised/desired about being treated like a real girl by a real guy. I accept that "Tgirl to Tgirl" is a common theme..and thats o.k....but it is not at all uncommon to find ... and feel...an attraction to guys as well. Me included.!!!
Love Nikki. xx

[TGMarla]

Yes. There's a part of it that is sexual, sensual, intimate, and all about the pleasure. But there's another part of it that's just different. It's the part that brings peace of mind, contentment, relaxation, and appreciation for beauty. It's the part that makes me whole.

[suanne]

Ok...here's how it is for me. I love to dress. Always have, no doubt always will. I have not thought about having sex with a man while dressed or not dressed. I am into GG's only. I don't always have a sexual experience when dressed, but would like to. I am a loner except for the cd forums (just 2).
Not interested in getting together with other cder's cause I ain't pretty and not matter what I do I look like a dude in a dress. Well silly atfter all thats what I am


Suanne

[Gemma Rhodes]

Can't see how you possibly can be who/what we are and NOT have a sexual element involved...to some degree or bias...I've always thought..despite the denials I read...that there can't be a Tgirl out there that at some time hasn't fantasised/desired about being treated like a real girl by a real guy. I accept that "Tgirl to Tgirl" is a common theme..and thats o.k....but it is not at all uncommon to find ... and feel...an attraction to guys as well. Me included.!!!
Love Nikki. xx

Hi Nikki,

I disagree.


I have never fantasised about being with a man, I suppose Gemma must be a lesbian. When I was younger I admit the sexual part was there but when I look back now I realise it was more the fact of being caught by my mum that was giving me the buzz and not the actual dressing.

I do still get an incredible buzz when I dress fully now but it is not sexual, just the relief of being able to express my femme side. Anyway Im sure we shall talk about this next Friday. I will see you then.

Gemma xx

[easyWendy]

I find that Wendy is attracted to men, but my male self only looks at real girls. It seems kinda natural that way, if you see what I mean.

Wendy

[Nikki Dee]

Hi. Gemma....I know your personal thoughts on this as I have heard/seen them before..and I respect your opinion....be interesting to know what the general thoughts are in our group...but not sure that the Belles is ready for that.!!!!!!!!...and how honest would people be.?...see you next week...(p.s. still think I'm right.!!!)LOL
Love Nikki. xx

[MsJanessa]

I'm in the last catagory---a combination of the two---there was a time when it was primarily sexual but as I dressed more and more, the sexual part of it diminished and the femme part increased---now its about a 40--60 split with the femme part being 60 and the sexual part being 40--go figure

[Midnight_Minx]

For me, dressing had started out as a sexual desire, but has since moved beyond that. It is now a way for me to embrace my feminine side, becoming more caring, sensual, and mysterious. I have come to know that my spirit is neither male nor female, but a mixture of both, while my outlook continues to focus on females, not finding any interest in the male form.

xoxo
~Minx~

[Aileen]

I don't get turned on when I dress. I remember once at a Halloween party I was in a short French Maid's dress, and a woman in a long gown brushed her long skirt right against my legs and it felt great. I got turned on, which was strange in a girdle.

But when I'm not dressed I think about being dressed to get turned on, and I read my crossdressing porno. I'm into fantasizing about humiliation, even though I wouldn't want to actually be humiliated.

[Gemma Rhodes]

Hi. Gemma....I know your personal thoughts on this as I have heard/seen them before...be interesting to know what the general thoughts are in our group...but not sure that the Belles is ready for that.!!!!!!!!...and how honest would people be.?...see you next week...(p.s. still think I'm right.!!!)LOL
Love Nikki. xx

Maybe I should dress down a bit to the next meeting then. Don't want you developing a crush on me now do we?

[sherri]

The sexuality of dressing hasn't diminished one whit for me. How can anyone wear a flimsy skirt over smooth legs and not be turned on?!? But other aspects of my feminine personality have surfaced, much to my delight.

And being sexual en femme does not have to be about other men, does it? It can be, but doesn't have to be. What I find is that at my age, there are definitely chunks of time, life, interaction, etc where as a male I'm not necessarily feeling sexual or being preoccupied with sex, but when I'm dressed and otherwise expressing my feminine and more complete self, there is always a sense of myself as a sexual being in terms of both self-identity and how I'm being perceived by other people. Sometimes that feeling is on the surface, sometimes it's simmering quietly underneath, but it's always there.

For me, that feminine sexuality has come to include an attraction to both sexes, but I do find that as an enthusiastic heterosexual and lover of women all my life, I'm as powerfully attracted as ever, but I am far more choosy when it comes to men. The older I get the more important chemistry is, but with women it can just be "close" and be good enough, whereas with men it has to be just exactly right. Of course, all this is academic most of the time.

[DonnaT]

When I first started, it was the feeling of the material and of satisfying some urge I couldn't figure out. This was well before puberty, thus had no sexual connotations.

Later, when I did discover sexual satisfaction, I integrated the dressing with fantasies and sexual release.

Now, however, I am back to where I first started, and dressing isn't used to satisfy my sexual needs.

[petticoatlisa]

well i've been dressing since i was 13 and of course then it was completely sexual...i'd just put on a skirt and panties and have at it! Now here we are almost 20 years later and i still get a huge sexual thrill out of dressing. that being said, i can say it does simply feel good to dress in women's clothes. Now i take my time dressing, applying make-up, etc and go about my day. I tend to be aroused the whole time i am dressed though and it always ends up in "relieving myself" Never had any desire to be with a man while dressed though, only GGs and other CDs...

[susan howard]

Yes. I have been dressing for many years now and i still find the experience very sexy.

Even more so now because I know how to get the look and know how to use it.

luv,

Susan Howard

[shyfellow]

Dressing is very sexual for me. I think of being with men, women, or other cds when dressed. I'm very submissive.

[Nikki Dee]

Gemma...steady on old girl.!!!!...you are assuming that I prefer Tgirls to guys.???or RG's.??...perhaps that's just not the case.????...my views are not necessarily about WHO you might find attractive etc....merely the thought that there is a sexual element to being TG for many of us....in whatever form it takes ...as many of the replies to this thread will suggest.
Love Nikki. xx

[MsJanessa]

Funny when I'm dressed and get turned on I feel very dominant, but I'venoticed many others feel sexy but submissive---Lucky Me I guess

[KathrynW]

Is dressing sexual or not for you?

[SIZE=2]Used to be. Not so much anymore. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=2]Can still be if I really want it to be.[/SIZE]

[insearchofme]

Dressing started out being sexual for me and like many others it still is. Often times when I dress it makes me fell good in a non-sexual way, kind of relaxing and comforting.

I have never been turned on by men so having sex with a man while dressed is out. I am attracted to other CDs and Tgirls but I have taken a vow so their out. Guess all I have are pics and stories to help me get releif when the sexual urge has come upon me.

[Ms. Laura]

Dressing was definitely sexual and still is. However, now that I'm older, there is more of a feeling of "completion" maybe. I feel like I'm who I want to be, for a while anyway. I think my wife looks at it as sexual and OK with that. I don't think she understands the non-sexual part. Anybody else there?

[Gemma Rhodes]

Gemma...steady on old girl.!!!!...you are assuming that I prefer Tgirls to guys.???or RG's.??...perhaps that's just not the case.????...my views are not necessarily about WHO you might find attractive etc....merely the thought that there is a sexual element to being TG for many of us....in whatever form it takes ...as many of the replies to this thread will suggest.
Love Nikki. xx

OLD GIRL !! You can go off people very quickly you know.

Will be having strong words with you next Friday

Gemma xx

[Helen MC]

Definitely sexual and autoerotic although I also find panties far more comfortable than any male underwear.

[JocelynG]

I feel I am closer to the first one but still have a bit of the 3rd in there as well. I dress because it is exciting yet comforting,arousing yet relaxing. I don't fantasize about men constantly while dressed but the thought does come from time to time